I have no obligation to forgive anyone who has wronged me.

People seem to forget this concept in this day and age, but I truly have zero obligation to anyone besides myself and people I love and care about. Also, I can choose the people I will care about unconditionally and I can choose to cut off people that f*ck up in such an extreme way that I don't even want to associate with them anymore.

Once I realize someone's true behaviors (like if they're a toxic person or incredibly self-destructive or don't care about me at all, to name a few) are sh*tty, I cut the person off. It's never fun to cut someone off, but I can recognize that I'm going to grow as a person by carefully choosing my close friends. Why would I want to be friends with someone who doesn't actually care about me and only cares about herself?

Throughout my college friendships, I've discovered the values I want to have in my friendships and relationships in general. There must be some level of trust and respect, otherwise, there is no true friendship.

I've recently had a former friend completely break my trust, which made me lose all respect for them. Without either of those things, there is no way a successful friendship can ever occur. I have no obligation to forgive anyone. I don't have to be the kind of person who forgives people when they do something really f*cked up.

I am my own person and I get to decide how I respond to trauma.

If I decide to respond by cutting you the f*ck out, then I can. That's my right as an autonomous individual. I don't even owe you an explanation because I HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO OTHER PEOPLE. I HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO FORGIVE ANYONE.

I don't want to be the kind of person who easily gives people a second chance only to get f*cked over again.

Of course, I HAVE forgiven people in my life. I firmly believe people are capable of change and ANYONE has the potential to become a better person. However, not all people will change themselves because they see no point in it. They f*ck up and continue f*cking up and hope that something will change.

Change is hard work and until someone demonstrates that they're worthy of my forgiveness, they won't be receiving it. Let me just repeat it one more time: I have NO obligation to forgive ANYONE.