Taking a step back, looking at your life from a outside 3rd party view, it’s amazing to see the impact prejudice and emotions have on the reality of a situation.
To you, it may seem like your world is collapsing. You failed the test, you lost a friend, you lost a boyfriend, who knows. All you know (or believe) -- is that you don’t see how life could get worse, how there isn’t a way for it to get better, that nothing good happens in your life, that everyone leaves-- anything really.
Yet if you remove emotions and preconceptions of passed failings or successions, what really is going on? You learn how to do better next time, your friend left because you don’t relate or the personalities don’t mix, maybe someone left just so you could realize you deserve better or that the quality of friendship you were giving them wasn’t in comparison to what they did for you, maybe he just wasn’t the one. Every pain or heartache comes with a purpose – a purpose to do better next time or to see a new side of yourself or even others. From an outside view, the current happenings could be so minuscule and there is a light at the end of the tunnel, you personally just can’t see it yet. Your emotions shield reality and the honest truth of what truly is going on in your life. The light is at the end of the tunnel, one little thing in the grand scheme of things is not the end.
Think of it this way -- emotions are fog. You’re walking trying to get through a tunnel (representing your life) and one thing happens, the air becomes murky, then another thing happens and it's difficult to see much past the length of your arm, and this continues on. When suddenly you can't control yourself and you can’t see past what you are feeling, the fog. Each emotion no matter what it may be-- fogs your judgement and perception. You can’t see the light at the end. But from 50 feet away, in the clear, you can see yourself walking through this tunnel getting lost and giving up over such a tiny thing, get a fog light and clearly see your emotions shielding reality. (Of course, I'm joking about the fog light...however I believe it was fitting and added a sense of humor).
Don’t get me wrong; Emotions are beautiful and it’s amazing to be able to feel so deeply. Keep the emotions around, otherwise you’re boring and quite frankly – I wouldn’t want to be friends with you. But sometimes, when it seems like the end, take a look from the outside, forgetting all the insignificant details and look at the situation for what it is. A failed test, that ultimately can be fixed by studying next time. A friend walking out of your life, some people just don’t get along. A coworker who just seems to bring the team down, some people are put into your life to teach you a lesson, not be a part of the bigger picture. A boyfriend breaks up with you -- again -- sometimes people don’t work together and that’s okay.
If it all becomes too much, just take a step back and see if you are being rational for the given situation. Removing your emotions and conditioning yourself to see the situation for what it is, could give you clarity and understanding. Emotions can hide you from the truth. Yet, emotions are necessary--keep loving, caring, fighting, hurting, and breaking. It’s a beautiful thing and don’t let trouble or pain take you away from being a living, breathing, feeling, wonderful human being.
