I’ve had a lot of haters in my life; people have said awful things about me, made fun of me because of my height, yelled at me for thinking differently (I’m creative; so what?). Some people have tried to tear me down to my face, push me over a ledge (literally, long story), and even team up against me to prove a point. I’ve had break-ups, heart breaks, and no breaks with people. I’ve had my life hit, stomach flipped and tossed into an emotional pit because of people. My heart bled and beat pain. The pain was who I was.

The more these things continued to happen, the angrier I became. “I don’t need people” was the motto of my life from 2015 to 2016, but for someone who loved people so deeply, those words fell out of my mouth like stinging ice to sensitive teeth; it really hurt. Those were the loneliest and worst years of my life because I allowed people’s opinions about me to determine my identity. But in reality, who am I really? What about me did I like? I didn’t know until I wrote it down; call it arrogant, call it whatever you please, but in reality, I’m just recognizing what Jesus has designed me to be.

I’m pretty funny; actually, I’m hilarious. I can think of jokes on the spot and come up with witty comebacks that no one thinks of. I make myself laugh. Heck, I scream laugh at my own jokes. I’m hilarious.

I’m pretty; actually, I’m gorgeous. I don’t really care if people think otherwise. I think my smile is awesome, my eyes are big, my hair is great, and my personality is rocking. I’m gorgeous.

I’m good at photography; actually, I’m fantastic. I have a good eye for the camera and know the exact time to take a perfect picture. I know how to angle people’s faces, work with sunlight, and avoid ugly shadows. I’m fantastic at photography.

I’m loving; actually, I’m a joyful lover. I care so deeply about people, their lives, and their situations that I spend time critically thinking about how I could make someone’s life better. What I could do to make them smile, laugh, and enjoy life away from the sadness. I love making people happy. I’m a joyful lover.

I’m a caring teacher; actually, I’m a passionate teacher. I care so much about my students that I would be willing to do anything for them. I want to take care of them, love them, and guide them to the best education they could have. I’m a passionate teacher.

I have faults too; I’m a free bird and go with the flow until I literally have to step up and do things. I’m really emotional and cry about everything. I could drop a few pounds. I have a scar on my knee that looks terrible. My eyebrows grow so fast I should just take a Weed Eater to them. I take things too seriously and get my feelings hurt way too much. I need people in my life, all the time, twenty-four seven to the point it gets on people’s nerves. I get angry when people don’t spend quality time with me. I feel left out when I’m not invited to things. I struggle with responsibilities, and I spend too much money.

I have faults and people have taken the time to let me know I have faults. I have faults, but I’m not worthless. I have faults, but I’m not unlovable. I have faults, but I’m not unwanted. Don’t let anyone tell you who you are. You should let yourself determine that. Now it’s your turn. Make a list of who you are and post it on your fridge, mirror, or window of your room. Don’t let people’s opinions determine who you are; focus on who God designed you to be!