In life, we all fall in love or have such a big heart that causes us to put others before ourselves. I pled guilty to doing this as well.
Putting others feelings before your own can sometimes be a good thing, but also can be a bad thing. People usually take advantage of a person when they tend to put others first. Being a good person is a good thing, but never let anyone take advantage of your good heart.
Being in a relationship is a biggie when putting yourself first. I for one struggled with this one. Yes, I have self-love but I continued to forgive and forget all the wrong done to me by someone who I claimed loved me. I always made sure they were happy and that I did my best as a girlfriend. I did not lose myself, but I lost myself happiness. I was not happy all the time. I put too much of my time and focus into something so toxic.
After being single for 5 months, I learned to put myself first before others. I have put more time and effort into myself. I learned that just because someone is not happy does not mean I always have to make them my top priority. I chose myself over someone and I believe it was the best decision I have made in a while.
Learn to love yourself and do things for yourself. It is so worth it. Be successful for yourself. Try something new and be wild. Putting yourself first will be a lifetime of happiness. Give yourself some time, then allow yourself to care for others in a generous way, but never lose yourself while making someone else happy.
Note to self: Never lose yourself trying to make someone else happy. Make yourself happy first.
