**Cries** "Omg, why does flirting have to be so hard?" "Like, does he like me or not?" "Ugh, he's so cute! Like, the way he looked at me the other day when we crossed paths!" "Should I just go up and talk to him? But, like, what do I say? I'm so awkward!"
Okay so girls, we have all been through that stage. Flirting is hard and it definitely becomes harder when you add a cellular device into the mix. Finding a balance somewhere between overbearing and overly casual is a struggle. And boys speak their own language. Thus, it can be a bit hard to decipher what they are saying. However, there are a few ways to make the flirting life easier.
1. Confidence
Go ahead text him first! Who exactly said that you have to wait for the boy to text you? I mean don't always start the conversation first, but put yourself out there. Okay, now we come to what to say. And, now you have no idea what to do. Do you even know words? Perhaps "What's up?" is a good one. But there is literally nothing snazzy about that line. You have to be bold if you want to come off as attractive to guys; that way you are memorable.
So however you flirt, just up your game a little bit and text him first. Maybe try "Can't stop thinking about how much fun I had last night" or "I'm totally blushing today." Either way, you'll show that you are attracted to him and he will be flattered. You're awesome, so be confident in yourself and text him. Who knows what will happen next? The mystery awaits!
2. Play it cool, yo
It's always exciting to be hitting it off with your crush, but you don't want to scare him away and be overly eager. It can be a red flag. DON'T tell him everything, as in a novel, when he texts you how your day is going. And if he's not responding to your texts, DON'T text him multiple times again! Double-texting is kind of a guy's worst nightmare, and you definitely do not want to come off as desperate or needy. That's absolutely not you!
But don't get caught up and try to play some sort of waiting game to reel him in to you. Here is a rule of thumb: don't sit and bite your fingers counting the hours to pretend you're not available. If you just so happen to get a text from him and your phone is already in your hand, then respond within a reasonable amount of time, like a few minutes to a hour. Anything after about three hours gives the message that you are no longer interested in him. Just be calm, cool, and collected, and he'll for sure want more of you. No doubt.
3. Less is way more
Emojis, yo, watch out for them. Don't send a picture story out of them. That's a little weird and just down right excessive. An occasional smiley face is good. Here's another rule: If you think you are over doing it, you probably are. Boys are not that expressive. To a girl, "OMG that's sooo cool!!!!!" would sound normal, but to a boy... ah hell nah. It can come off as crazy. Just keep it casual and sparing. Most guys have a positive reaction to the word "great," so use it to your benefit, just not too often. And after texting with each other for a while, you can get a feel for how their style is, so just hold off on all of those hair flip and dancing emojis for now. Use great words and let it go from there. ;)
4. Let him do the texting
Flirting doesn't always have to be this big, confusing puzzle. Keep a conversation going by actually having things to talk about. Ask him simple questions that will make him talk. We are very similar in this nature. Boys and girls love to talk about themselves. You will get a chance to know him and it kind of forces him to text you back. He'll enjoy the open-ended questions. But, make sure he is asking you questions, too!
5. Knowing when to end it
Knowing when to end a conversation can be hard, but it takes time to learn when it is fizzling out. If he texts one-word answers or takes forever to respond back to you, then perhaps it is time to call it quits. Saying, "See you soon" or "Talk to you later" (by all means not l8tr!) shows him that you still want more but are done at the moment. Just try to conclude with future plans. Leave it open for more conversations! Tell him why you have to go, or even that you are excited to see him again. If he responds back, let him have the last word and leave him wanting more!
6. Don't overanalyze it
"K" can be awful! We think that they don't want us anymore and never want to see us again! A downward spiral can happen all by the means of a simple text. But hold on. We sometimes overreact to something that, in reality, was probably just a quick text because he was distracted by something, or because he was at the gym.
7. Be yo'self
Just act like yourself! Don't lie to him and say that you are totally into country music when you actually hate country music with a passion. You can't make a relationship work based on the all of the lies you have told him. Setting a loose foundation for a relationship just screams that it is bound to fail! Don't stress yourself out trying to keep up with your lies. Besides, if he doesn't like you for who you are, then that is his loss. He isn't worth your time anyway.
Now that you know these simple rules to flirting with guys, cell phone style, go out at get 'em, ladies!
