What I Learned My First Year Living In A Dorm

What I Learned My First Year Living In A Dorm

My first time sharing a room with someone.


I didn't really know what to expect coming to college about the living situation. I actually had a triple my first semester and one roommate moved out so the past several months it has just been me and one roommate. The triple was a different experience but really the main difference has been the space. It was so cramped last semester and this past semester we have had more space than we need. Over the past year I have learned several things about sharing your space with someone else. Hint: it isn't easy.

The first thing I learned was how important patience is. More likely than not you and your roommate are not going to get along perfectly and your preferences for how you want the room to be won't be the same either. Sometimes you are going to want something to be cleaned, put away, or vacuumed right when you want it to be but if you want to take turns and really share the room, you have to just let your roommate get around to it when she does. And if it takes longer than reasonable, a friendly reminder isn't wrong.

Another thing I learned is the importance of compromise. This sounds like a no brainer but it is something that those of us who have always had our own bedroom aren't used to. Sometimes you will want the AC on while your roommate won't and you both are going to have to realize that there needs to be middle ground. Maybe she turns it off while you're both studying and then you turn it on for sleep. Both of you are never going to get everything exactly the way you want it all the time and that's completely ok.

Something else I realized is that it's hard to have alone time. If your roommate is someone who studies in the room, does everything in the room and pretty much never leaves, you are going to have a hard time finding some time in the room without them. This doesn't seem like a big deal but watching Netflix alone is a lot different compared to watching it with headphone while someone else is in the room. Especially when we are constantly around others in college it can be exhausting never feeling like you have some alone time just by yourself.

Along those lines, I noticed how loud the dorm is as a whole. Not just someone else getting up and getting ready for the day while you're trying to sleep but also everyone else in the building. You can hear people outside, upstairs, in the hall, literally everywhere at pretty much every hour of the day. It can be frustrating if you're trying to sleep while everyone else seems to be throwing a dance party but it's just one of those things. Headphones can be helpful and so can an extra pillow to go over your head :).

Finally something that is key to having a good time in your dorm is communication. If you want to have people to the room before going out, ask. It doesn't take much effort to send your roommate a text and if they say no for that night you can always have people over another time. A lot of problems arise when roommates aren't communicating and a lot of ~awkward~ situations can be avoided just by sending a short text message.

Living in a dorm is fun but it's not easy. It's like a never ending sleepover and sometimes the communal bathrooms and your roommate's habits can get really old. However, it's something that most of us will only do for one or two more years of our lives so we have to find the positives and learn to deal and grow from the negatives.

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I Don't Care How Hard Your Major Is, There Is No Excuse Not To Have A Job While In College

If the name on your credit card does not match the name on your birth certificate, then you really need to re-evaluate your priorities.


We seem to live in a generation where everyone wants to go to college.

It is nice to see that people want to invest in their education, but at what expense? It's easy to commit to a school, and it is even easier to get yourself and your parents into thousands of dollars of debt because you're "living your best life."

To me, it's pathetic if you're over the age of eighteen and you don't have some sort of income or responsibilities outside of homework and attendance. The old excuse, "I want to focus on school," is no longer valid. You can get all A's while having a job, and that has nothing to do with intelligence, but rather your will to succeed. "I don't have time for a job/internship," translates to, "I'm really lazy,".

You don't need to overextend yourself and work forty hours a week, but you should at least work summers or weekends. Any job is a good job. Whether you babysit, walk dogs, work retail, serve tables or have an internship. You need to do something.

"My major is too hard," is not an excuse either. If you can go out on the weekends, you can work.

The rigor of your major should not determine whether or not you decide to contribute to your education. If the name on your credit card does not match the name on your birth certificate, then you really need to re-evaluate your priorities.

Working hard in school does not compensate for having any sense of responsibility.

I understand that not everyone has the same level of time management skills, but if you truly can't work during the school year, you need to be working over the summer and during your breaks. The money you make should not exclusively be for spending; you should be putting it towards books, loans, or housing.

Internships are important too, paid or not.

In my opinion, if you chose not to work for income, you should be working for experience. Your resume includes your degree, but your degree does not include your resume. Experience is important, and internships provide experience. A person working an unpaid internship deserves the same credit as a student working full/part-time.

Though they are not bringing in income for their education, they are gaining experience, and opening up potential opportunities for themselves.

If you go to college just to go to class and do nothing else, then you don't deserve to be there. College is so much more than just turning in assignments, it is a place for mental and academic growth. You need to contribute to your education, whether it is through working for income or working for knowledge or experience.

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The 20-Step Process Of Before, During, And After Finals

A time filled with sleep deprivation and an unhealthy caffeine addiction.


As we all know, finals are the most difficult and trying time during the semester. Mid-terms are over, you finished all your other projects, and now it's time for the final call. Here's your guide of every emotion you'll feel during this trying time.

1. Finals are approaching, and you tell yourself you’ll start studying early, but you actually end up doing nothing.


Can’t stop won’t stop.

2. You’re now a week out, but you say you’ll start studying on Wednesday.


Who cares?

3. Wednesday has passed, and now it’s Thursday and you go out with your friends.



4. Suddenly, it’s the day before finals, and you haven’t started studying.


Freaking out.

5. You start thinking, where has the time gone?!


Internally screaming.

6. You start studying and realize you know nothing.


Help me.

7. You study, study, and study, and feel super smart.


Feeling smart af.

8. You review the study guide and realize you only know the first chapter.


Time to freak out.

9. Welcome to your first meltdown of finals.


Ah, the first meltdown.

10. You take your first exam, and it was awful. To cope, you tell yourself that your next one will be different.


You can do it!

11. You study for your next exam, and all confidence is lost.


Going to fail.

12. You start do blame your teachers for giving you such hard finals.


This is unfair!

13. You’re now in the depths of finals week, and the caffeine addiction and sleep deprivation are starting to kick in.



14. Your last final is tomorrow, and you’re feeling rundown but desperately trying to study.


Almost there.

15. It’s time to start praying to all gods in order to pass your last final.


Hi, it's me, gods. Can you hear me?

16. Your last final is over, signifying that finals are officially over.


Praise be.

17. Finally, you can see the light at the end of the tunnel.


All the emotions.

18. Then you realize it’s time to pack.


Just when you think you’re done...

19. Packing and finals are over and you’re ready to leave.


I've never been happier in my life!

20. Now you’re home, happy, and carefree...until you get your grades in the mail.


I couldn’t care less.

Aren't you excited to start all over again in the fall?

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