What It's Like to be First, Finest, Forever

What It's Like to be First, Finest, Forever

Deep in my heart, I love my ADPi

I was apprehensive about going through formal recruitment at first. I had always wanted to be in a sorority, but never knew if it was truly for me. We all see the movies of the perfect Barbies with the attitudes larger than their IQs wearing barely any clothes dancing in front of a sorority house. For some that may be their dream, but that's not the type of sorority girl I wanted to be. I wanted a sorority for what it stood for. Friendship and philanthropy. I wanted to be a part of a group of girls who were down to earth, I could open up to, and be myself around. I found exactly that in Alpha Delta Pi.

So here it is, Boom Boom I went ADPi and baby here's why:

1. The "sistahhood"

Yes, the stereotypes live up to their hype. When you join a sorority you gain a bunch of new "sisters" who you will indeed find yourself calling sisters in public and when you're out. And yes you will receive strange looks. However, the word sister in relation to the amazing bonds I have made with these girls could not be more fitting. I grew up with a brother and never truly knew what it meant to have a sister until now. A sister is someone who is there for you at any time of any day with advice and ice cream. A sister is someone you share your entire closet with and flaunt the same outfits on your Instagram. A sister is someone who will laugh, cry, scream, party, dance, study, eat, breathe, sleep with you just because you love each other and because you're family.

2. The philanthropy

Ronald McDonald House Charities is everything I'm passionate about in life. Helping people, spreading happiness, and being there for people who need it. I wanted to be a part of an organization where it wasn't just about the sad pictures of our philanthropy or just about making donations and raising money, which is important don't get me wrong. But I wanted to be a part of an organization who is hands-on with their philanthropy so I can see what my service is doing for these people right away. Seeing the kids in the house faces light up when you read or sing to them makes you get that warm and fuzzy feeling inside because you know that you are helping this family even if it is only by coming to spend time with them for maybe an hour of the day. That may be the first time they've smiled in a long time and that one instantaneous moment of happiness can make all the difference in their life.

3. Personality before pretentiousness

This was the winner for me. Every single time I walked into that room during recruitment I was greeted with genuine smiles, conversations, and people. It wasn't a talk about how "pretty" I am or how "cute" my shoes were. I'll take a compliment when I'm given one, but I don't want to join an organization just to make my Instagram look better because I'll be surrounded by a bunch of pretty girls with Louis Vuitton bags. I want an organization that sees me for the person I am and accepts me for me. Within the first hour I spent with my, at that time potential, sisters I knew ADPi would be my home. I spent 20 minutes talking to a sister about how much money we spend weekly on food because we eat more than most of our guy friends. I obsessed with another one about our addiction to the Kardashian's and how badly we wanted to look like Khloe. These were the conversations that meant the most to me. Not the stereotypical compliments and awkward silence that then followed which made me feel like my hair should've been more blown out or my smile whiter.

I know all my sisters out there can relate to how proud I feel to belong to the First, Finest, & Forever. Diamonds truly are a girl's best friend.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs.

In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm...

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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I Didn't Join A Panhellenic Sorority

It's okay if you don't join a panhellenic sorority. Sometimes a different organization can turn out to be the best thing.


Before going to college I was faced with a dilemma, should I rush? I wanted to rush just for the social aspect, I thought it would be my best shot at making a bunch of friends. However, deep down I knew that greek life really wasn't me. I didn't want to do something if I wasn't one hundred percent behind it. There was a part of me that did want to be in a sorority but the other part of me really didn't want to rush. Let me be clear, I don't think Greek life is bad, I just think it wasn't for me. I talked to my brother and sister-in-law about this because they both were in Greek life at the college I attend now; they told me that they didn't think I would like it either.

What my brother and sister-in-law told me that I might like was, a Christian sorority called Sigma Phi Lambda. When they described it to me it seemed like exactly what I was wanting. As soon as I got to college I sought them out; and I went to their recruitment nights. I loved it! It was exactly what I was looking for. I ended up joining. This sorority brought me an amazing group of friends! Most importantly, I have joined the perfect sorority for me! A few things I liked most about Sigma Phi Lambda was the people were so welcoming, it was more low key and laid back, I was still able to have a big and a "Pham", we still did lots of sorority things whilst also having activities that strengthened us on our walks with the Lord, and I gained so many sisters that I now have strong relationships with. Sigma Phi Lambda gave me so many friends and something to be involved in on campus. They gave me somewhere to belong and I am so glad I chose to join them.

Rushing may be exactly what you need when you go to college, but if it's not that is okay. Just join something that makes you happy. Join an organization that helps you grow and surrounds you with people that you want to be around. I promise when you get to college that there is an organization for just about everything, find the one that fits you. No matter what you choose I promise it's good. Just make sure you choose what is right for you.

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