What It's Like to be First, Finest, Forever

What It's Like to be First, Finest, Forever

Deep in my heart, I love my ADPi

I was apprehensive about going through formal recruitment at first. I had always wanted to be in a sorority, but never knew if it was truly for me. We all see the movies of the perfect Barbies with the attitudes larger than their IQs wearing barely any clothes dancing in front of a sorority house. For some that may be their dream, but that's not the type of sorority girl I wanted to be. I wanted a sorority for what it stood for. Friendship and philanthropy. I wanted to be a part of a group of girls who were down to earth, I could open up to, and be myself around. I found exactly that in Alpha Delta Pi.

So here it is, Boom Boom I went ADPi and baby here's why:

1. The "sistahhood"

Yes, the stereotypes live up to their hype. When you join a sorority you gain a bunch of new "sisters" who you will indeed find yourself calling sisters in public and when you're out. And yes you will receive strange looks. However, the word sister in relation to the amazing bonds I have made with these girls could not be more fitting. I grew up with a brother and never truly knew what it meant to have a sister until now. A sister is someone who is there for you at any time of any day with advice and ice cream. A sister is someone you share your entire closet with and flaunt the same outfits on your Instagram. A sister is someone who will laugh, cry, scream, party, dance, study, eat, breathe, sleep with you just because you love each other and because you're family.

2. The philanthropy

Ronald McDonald House Charities is everything I'm passionate about in life. Helping people, spreading happiness, and being there for people who need it. I wanted to be a part of an organization where it wasn't just about the sad pictures of our philanthropy or just about making donations and raising money, which is important don't get me wrong. But I wanted to be a part of an organization who is hands-on with their philanthropy so I can see what my service is doing for these people right away. Seeing the kids in the house faces light up when you read or sing to them makes you get that warm and fuzzy feeling inside because you know that you are helping this family even if it is only by coming to spend time with them for maybe an hour of the day. That may be the first time they've smiled in a long time and that one instantaneous moment of happiness can make all the difference in their life.

3. Personality before pretentiousness

This was the winner for me. Every single time I walked into that room during recruitment I was greeted with genuine smiles, conversations, and people. It wasn't a talk about how "pretty" I am or how "cute" my shoes were. I'll take a compliment when I'm given one, but I don't want to join an organization just to make my Instagram look better because I'll be surrounded by a bunch of pretty girls with Louis Vuitton bags. I want an organization that sees me for the person I am and accepts me for me. Within the first hour I spent with my, at that time potential, sisters I knew ADPi would be my home. I spent 20 minutes talking to a sister about how much money we spend weekly on food because we eat more than most of our guy friends. I obsessed with another one about our addiction to the Kardashian's and how badly we wanted to look like Khloe. These were the conversations that meant the most to me. Not the stereotypical compliments and awkward silence that then followed which made me feel like my hair should've been more blown out or my smile whiter.

I know all my sisters out there can relate to how proud I feel to belong to the First, Finest, & Forever. Diamonds truly are a girl's best friend.

Cover Image Credit: Danielle Vigliarolo

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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No Matter How Much You Flaunt Your Letters, Greek Life Does Not Define You

Do what makes you happy, not what everyone else is doing.


As a student at a university with a major sorority and fraternity presence, I know that those unaffiliated, like myself, can't help but wonder if there's something that we're missing out on. Seeing everyone walk around flaunting their letters can make a non-member feel a little left out. I have been told straight to my face "you're going to regret it if you don't rush." But, in all honesty, I don't.

Now, don't get me wrong, being a part of a sorority or a fraternity sounds incredibly fun. With formals to hold, fundraising events to be a part of, "sister photo shoots" to have, and socials to go to, there never seems to be a dull moment for a Greek life member. Not to mention, those affiliated say they have made their absolute best friends through their sororities or fraternities. My friends that are a part of Greek life are always gloating about it, and I can see why. I joined my past roommate at one of her sorority formals and I genuinely had a ball being able to dress up and pretend it was prom again.

However, as wonderful as all of this is, you don't need to be a part of Greek life in order to have THE college experience. Having letters on your shirts does not mean you are any better or any worse of a student than those without them. The letters do not define you.

As an unaffiliated college student, I have still been able to find my group of "forever friends," join clubs, spend nights out, and get an education (since that is, after all, what we're all here for). As cool as it is to be able to stick Greek letters on the back of your laptop, for me, it just leaves more room for stickers of Harry Styles.

Thankfully, college is a lot different than high school — there aren't really any cliques or status rankings. So, if you aren't a part of Greek life, that does not automatically put you at the bottom of the social ladder. At the end of the day, your affiliation does not matter at all. Instead of using a sorority or fraternity as a resumé booster, unaffiliated students can fill those blanks with other work, internship, volunteer, or extracurricular opportunities.

Sure, being a Greek life member may allow you to network and get connections for future careers, but it isn't the only way to do

so. Employers will not pick those in a fraternity over those who are not. They simply look for well-rounded individuals who are involved in something.

So, whether or not you're a part of a sorority or fraternity, I applaud you for making your own decisions and hopefully taking the college route that you wanted to. It does not matter what you are affiliated with, as long as it makes you happy. Otherwise, you aren't missing out on anything special.

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