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Who Said You Are Who Your Friends Are?

The golden rule is key when searching for your people.

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Danyel Meahan

As the month of August approaches there are really only two things my four best friends and I talk about: The Bachelorette finale and college. We have infinite conversations about our excitement, what to expect, and our concerns. Yes, this goes for both of them.

Our biggest concern for The Bachelorette finale is that Becca will choose Garrett over Blake. As for college, we are afraid that we won't find our people.

What makes people somebody's people, anyway? To get to the bottom of this, I asked myself: What makes Nichole, Megan, Paulina, and Kaitlin my people?

1. Is it what we eat?

Sure, we eat most of our meals together, but it doesn't mean we all eat the same thing. One night Megan brought us to an amazing burger place that is famous for their delicious vegan options.

Megan is a wellness guru and has a passion for veganism (follow @awellnessjourney_ on Instagram). That night Kaitlin and I chose to stick to what we are used to and ordered beef. Megan did not once judge us for it. However, the answer is no.

2. Is it the way we dress?

Nope, not that either. A few months ago Nichole was asked out on a date. We were sitting in her car chatting a few hours before when I asked her what she planned on wearing. She said, "Probably a sweatshirt."

She could immediately tell I disagreed with her as I raised my eyebrows and asked, "Are you kidding?" She still wore that sweatshirt, though.

3. Is it the shows we binge watch on Netflix?

Not long ago Netflix and I went through an amicable breakup. We were growing bored and moved on. But, Paulina insisted I return to my old binge watching days and watch the show Riverdale.

Because her recommendations never disappointed me in the past, I gave it a go. A few episodes in I became horrified by a scene and immediately stopped watching. She still tells me how much she enjoys the show. It's certainly not the shows we binge watch on Netflix that makes her one of my people.

4. Is it how many likes our pictures get on Instagram?

Considering Nichole receives five hundred likes on her posts and I made it to two hundred for the first time a month ago, this is a hard no.

If we are all so different, how did the five of us form this unbreakable bond?

Often times people create bonds based on commonalities. The track team brought my friends and me together. But what glues us together is the same level of respect we have for one another and our differences. As you know, I'm no wellness guru, and I wouldn't wear a sweatshirt on a date. However, Megan is the most inspiring girl I know, and I will always admire Nichole for her nonchalant attitude.

To all the soon-to-be college kids that fear they won't find their people, just search for the kids that treat people in the same way that you do. That's the only thing you must have in common. Your people are out there.

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