Carrie Bradshaw once said, "Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates, and guys are just people to have fun with."
Two decades later and this theory is still relevant today, it is probably safe to call it a human condition. All kidding aside, she showed us that partners can come and go, but best friends are... well... forever.
Your soulmates are not just your romantic partners. Somehow, we have come to regard our "soulmates" as the people whom we share a fated partnership that is destined for sex, romance, and marriage. What I have found to be true is that you have many different soulmates in your life: partners, friends, and family members. People with whom you feel completely at home. To whom you owe more than you can even imagine. The people who have changed your life just for having known them. It is those people we naturally click with, you cannot help but know that your connection is much deeper than the small bit of time you have had together in life. If you are lucky enough to have a friend like this, like I do, then you will be able to pick out specific times you knew it most.
So, to my best friend and soulmate, here is to you:
The first time we met, we immediately clicked. I felt like I had known you for forever. Well, we really shared a love of banana peppers and chili cheese fritos at this point in time, honestly.
The first time I asked you sincerely for help was the moment I knew you would be around for forever. This was such a powerful and bonding experience. It was not just being vulnerable, it was being loved for and through my vulnerable places. The day I broke down in front of you for the first time about Kaylee is a day I will never forget, but there are so many moments I have felt vulnerable with you. Whether it is real advice on something that has been hurting me, or when I genuinely need help- there has been nothing more beautiful in our friendship than receiving it, without need of retribution, simply out of love for me.
Hanny, even if I want to punch you half the time, you are the only person I ever want to spend any time with, besides Benny & Odyie of course. I would rather not be in a relationship for the rest of my life as long as we can sit in silence on the couch while sending memes to each other, watch tv, or cuddle with our pups.
I can text, call, tweet, or Instagram DM you about seriously anything, any time of the day, about the dumbest things, and you still reply and love me. Well, I guess you making me watch videos of snakes going to the bathroom shows how close we are...
Sharing my childhood with you, showing you the whole context of who I am, well I spent half of it with you, the other half you surely know every detail. All the vulnerable places I have been in, all the things that have happened to me, all the long forgotten people who left, or the people I have lost. I put all the cards on the table, you never look at a person the same after hearing their past- yet, you looked at me with love rather than disgust.
There is not any way I could thank you enough for everything you do for me, Hanny, but either way thank you for loving me. I could not have asked for a better soulmate.
Love always,
Dest
