Lately, I've been seeing lots of posts on social media talking about self-help and what it means. Most of these posts say about the same thing for the most part.
Usually, they start with a title like "some self-help things that you can do to relax." Then begins a list of generic options like drink a cup of tea, take a jog, read a book, eat something healthy, do a face mask, or take a bath.
Sometimes I see these post and think "maybe I'll try something new." These things are all fun and good, but this list is not an end all be all.
Sometimes when you're tired or stressed you need to go for a jog, but sometimes you need to cozy up with your favorite movie and a pint of ice cream. Sometimes the answer to your anxiety may be reading a book, but sometimes it might be just simply taking a nap.
Self-help is subjective to each and every person, and there is no formula for contentment.
Sure, try these things, and maybe some of them will help you to feel calm and centered, but if you need to skip the gym once and awhile, do it! The sun will still rise tomorrow!
We live messy lives and so much goes on within any given day, there is no reason to worry about what we can't control.
I used to think that if I took a day off to focus on mental health or simply just to slow down, the world would stop. Now after finding the things that I like to do to feel refreshed, I realized that it's exactly the opposite.
When I wake up, I am able to take on the day with a new perspective and a new strength. So, maybe for me, relaxation isn't taking a jog, but I've found the recipe for relaxation that suits me.
Find what works for you and go with it! There's no such thing as a perfect formula for self-help.