We all try to perfectly piece together the life we want- almost to a point of utter obsession. I’ve found myself in this position a lot recently. We all fill every calendar to the brim with miscellaneous appointments and checklists, yet we never seem to factor in one variable - unpredictability.
The second we feel that we have control of our lives, something will always come in from left field to just screw everything up. I can almost promise that at this point. But everything will be OK anyway. What I am about to tell you will not change your world. My words will not whisk away the grey clouds and bring eternal sunshine, but I hope to bring a sense a relief to whoever reads this.
It’s OK to not know what’s going on every second of your life.
It’s OK if you can’t smile right after you get your heart broken, or when you don't get the job promotion you deserved or the grade on a test that you wanted. Sometimes the reasoning that everything "happens for a reason" is not good enough.
You’re human, and it’s OK to have human days where you can’t even manage to match your socks, let alone sum up the actions of the Universe in a way that “makes sense.”
Sometimes, the events that happen in your life are as senseless as spilling coffee on your freshly ironed shirt before a meeting or finding $20 on the ground. Not everything was meant to be scrutinized and wrung out like an orange to get the last remaining bits of grand meaning out of it.
I've found myself twisting every situation into a "bigger picture" mindset as if I could just forget the present and focus on the future to lessen the emotional impact of the things I've been through. I've found it helpful to sometimes forget the picture altogether. Throw the whole frame away. Life is not, and will never be a perfect picture. That's what makes it so beautiful and genuine. Heal one piece at a time. Find yourself one piece at a time. Be present during the happiness and the pain. The world will continue to spin regardless if we ever find meaning in the events that take place in our lives, so we might as well just kiss the cards we’ve been dealt, and try to win the game anyway.
