Negativity: the expression of criticism or pessimism about something. Toxic friendships are flooded with negativity and we just can’t have that anymore, right? It’s hard to tell when a friendship is destructive. But once you become aware, it makes it a lot easier to let go. Here’s where I can help. Throughout this article, I am going to help you spot the difference between an honest friend and a friend who brings you down.
How to spot the fakes:
Friendships that are abusive can be straight up draining. In a destructive friendship, the friend will bring up issues you’re sensitive about and criticize them. If you’re sensitive like myself, it’s easier to figure out the subliminal knocks at your self-esteem. These people will point out your insecurities which creates more self-doubt for you carry with you on your back.
On top of slamming your insecurities, these “friends will also”
- Remind you constantly about your mistakes
- Make you feel judged
- Bad mouth your other friends
- See the bad in everything and never intend on seeing the good
- Guilt trip you 24/7
- Always have a comeback for everything
- Manipulate you to do things you don’t want to do
- Make you feel undeserving
- Hurt you but act as if they had no idea it would make you upset
What’s friendship detoxing and where can I get one?
Friendship detoxing is easier than you think. For starters, I want you to analyze the people you spend time with and truly identify who the toxic people are. What is your energy around these people? When their name pops up on your phone, do you experience anxiety and feel uneasy? If you are planning a party, do you hesitate before sending them the evite?
If you suffer from distress because of these “friendships,” it really is time to let go. You probably think that abandoning a friendship isn’t easy, but it really is just that simple. Why carry all this unnecessary baggage? It’s time to be selfish and it’s time to do things that make you happy.
Finding your Tribe.
You need to go over these five questions first:
- Who inspires me?
- Who supports me?
- Who is open to learning with me?
- Who celebrates me?
- Who brings me bliss?
Reevaluating your old friendships will help you feel more confident when finding new ones. I challenge you to explore things in new ways. By doing things such as asking insightful questions and embracing in creative conversations, you are pushing yourself to find valuable friends. Above all else, you need to believe in yourself so that others will see you more clearly. I hope this article helps you spot a toxic friendship and in turn, helps you become a better friend. With that, you are now on your journey to friendship detoxing and I have no doubt you will find your bestie’s for the restie.
