Find Your 2am Person

Find Your 2am Person

Find someone who makes you forget all your past beliefs of what love looks like

It's really easy to get lost in the idea of what a relationship should look like. It's easy to be swept up in Instagram hashtags, Facebook videos and flipagrams of relationship goals. There is truth in the idea that you should always celebrate your partner, you should hold hands and go out to dinners to reconnect but that's not all love is.

Love is living in the dark moments. Love is showing up at all hours.

I came from a relationship that looked good on paper, we took pictures and I posted almost religiously about how great things were. Little did anyone know about what was actually happening. We were fighting like it was our job, not talking for days even though we were living together. I was afraid to ask for help- I was afraid to admit when I was in over my head, afraid to lean on my partner for guidance or reassurance because I didn't want to open another can of worms to another night of arguing. I got used to being independent, there is nothing wrong with independence but you also cannot think you can carry the weight of an entire family unit on one set of shoulders.

I got tired and resentful and angry and I let myself be beaten down by the day. I had to let go of all that weight.

I didn't know the difference in what I was feeling until I finally solidified my relationship; Until I found my 2am person. I found a man who would (and has) dropped everything to come jump my car, who calls to ask about my day, who has sat with me on the side of the road just to wait for a tow truck because according to him no lady should stand alone on the highway. It was a flat tire and it was in broad daylight but I appreciate the sentiment. This man is selfless in order to make sure that I am selfish on my own behalf. He sees me when I'm overwhelmed and he wraps his arms around me and promises me that I'm okay even on days I don't believe it. He has sang to me in my driveway with company just to make me laugh, he includes me when he goes with friends and family. He fits in at Christmas and I don't have to monitor him around my family. He'll spend hours in the car with my dad on the way to family vacation because there isn't room for us to sit together. He sacrifices for me and for a daughter that he claims but biologically isn't his. He puts the car seat in and starts the car so it's warm by the time we walk outside. If I ever needed help he is the first one I'd call. He holds me when tears are streaming, shows up in the driveway just for a kiss. He worries about me if I don't respond- he encourages me to take a breath and shift my focus to the positive. It's the easiest thing I've ever done to love him.

We take pictures and we go out to dinners, I have videos of him singing and snoring and being so incredibly silly. What those small blips of the day don't show are the times he's dried my tears, the times I've fallen asleep in his lap while he still manages to entertain my toddler. We problem solve and we make adult decisions. We plan and map out our lives together. We take interest in each other's hobbies. You won't see all the ugly moments and that doesn't mean they don't exist, it means that we live through those. We are not perfect, we don't always agree on how things should be handled but we have a love that works a lot of overtime, a love that stays late and comes in early. A love that lives on through the mess and chaos. A love that will handle grief and heartbreak and curve balls. The kind of love that answers the phone at 2am.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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When Everyone Around You Is In a Relationship And You're Still Single

You might feel pressure to start a relationship, but reconsider...


I'm not sure how or when exactly it happened, but it suddenly seems like everyone I know is in a relationship. While I'm happy for them, it can be kinda...depressing. Nauseating. Exhausting.

It builds slowly at first: the subtle side-eye you give your friend as they're on the phone with their S.O., the little pang of jealousy you get when your cousin posts their engagement pictures on Facebook, the way you feel when your Snapchat Stories are full of people on cute dinner dates.

Suddenly, it's a Thursday afternoon and you just snapped over an Instagram post of your friend and his boyfriend on their anniversary. We've all been there. I may or may not be there currently.

The worst advice you can get when you're feeling down about not having an S.O. is "Don't worry! You'll find someone!"(Especially when it's coming from someone in a happy relationship).

I'm here to give you the actual advice that you (and I) need to hear. You do not need a relationship to be happy, satisfied, or whole.

Here's the truth: you're gonna be just fine without a relationship. You are young. You are educated. You are ambitious and have your whole future ahead of you.

You are a complete person on your own who does not need another person to validate you or make your life worth enjoying. I'm not saying a relationship can't be satisfying and fun. I am saying that being in a relationship is not the end all, be all of happiness.

If you are spending your time waiting for a relationship and looking for it in every person you meet, you can end up missing out on so much of your life. Instead of being jealous of every couple around you and being bitter that you can't seem to find the "right person," try figuring out how to enjoy spending time as an individual.

You will have more time to devote to exploring new interests, developing new skills, and meeting new people. Your social, emotional, and mental wellbeing will become priorities.

Plus, just because you aren't in a relationship or looking for a relationship, that doesn't mean you won't have romantic/sexual experiences. You can still go on dates and develop relationships with people you are attracted to without the pressure to turn it into a serious relationship. Once you remove that expectation from your mind, you might even find it easier to meet, talk to, and connect with people.

When you stop focusing all your energy and hopes onto being in a romantic relationship, you open the door to new experiences, opportunities, and people. Most importantly, you are able to refocus and recenter your life around growth as an individual, which will lead to a healthier and more solid basis for any future relationships.

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