Fight For Happiness, It's Your Choice To Make

Fight For Happiness, It's Your Choice To Make

It's not always easy, but it's always worth it.

Being happy is a choice. It's something that's been drilled into my head since I was very little. I never believed it was true when I was younger. I thought happiness was uncontrollable and uncontainable. Happiness strikes when it does, and it flees then it's done. I didn't think it was able to be created or held onto. I was a moody adolescent, and my parents always told me I needed to be less negative. But I always felt like it was out of my control. I've a naturally negative person, and I've always felt cursed with this. When I was younger, I used to wish to feel consistent happiness.

As I got older and wiser, I realized that happiness was a choice, and I decided to make that choice every day. I've been a happier person ever since.

But making that choice isn't always easy. Sometimes choosing to be happy is the hardest thing to do. Using your brain to make serotonin can be exhausting, and it is a lot easier to just be miserable. Laying on the floor listening to the Arctic Monkeys is a lot easier than going to the gym, joining a new club or planning a trip somewhere new and exciting. Isn't it so much easier to space out watching Netflix on the couch than pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones to meet new people or a try a new thing? There are so many days that I wonder if the decision to be happy is truly worth the effort.

But it is. It is, it is, it is.

Happiness is worth the fight. It's worth the struggle and pushing because eventually you push yourself to the other side to true happiness. I've sometimes struggled to push myself, especially in recent months, but I always at least try to do it. If I feel unhappy consistently, I try to find reasons why I might not be happy. I just to make changes, whether it's joining a new club or getting a new job or meeting new people to hang out with. I exercise more, whether it's walking to class when I usually don't or going to the gym when I usually wouldn't. I think positive thoughts, whether it's writing nice quotes on my planner or thinking of three things I'm grateful for every day. I take a nice shower or eat a good meal. And I always remind myself things will get better.

Do what you have to do to be happy, as long as you're being kind to yourself and kind to others. Don't be afraid to reach for something or don't be afraid to say no to something that isn't for you. In my opinion, happiness is one of the most important parts of being alive. I think we get so caught up trying to chase the wrong things that we lose sight of being happy.

I'm not saying it's easy or virtuous to choose happiness; it's just how I've managed to find personal peace in my life. I will wake up and choose happiness every day. Even when I'm tired or lost or unsure, I know the one choice I will always make.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Starting T Didn't Go The Way I Planned And I'm So Thankful For That

Nothing ever goes as it should, so why should this?


On April 4, 2019, I officially started the medical part of my transition. I say the medical part of my transition because my transition started long before that day, this was just the medical aspect of things. The day before was my 20th birthday and my mom came to town to surprise me. A few months ago she told me that she had scheduled an appointment with my endocrinologist for June 4, 2019, so that I could talk to them about starting T. Over dinner that night my mom told me that part of my birthday present was that she lied about my appointment, it was actually April 4th and not June 4th.

After I got over the initial shock, tears of joy and excitement, my mom and I had a long serious talk about things to make sure that I was ready to go through with things. The time I had to prepare had been cut down from two months to less than 24 hours. At first, I was panicking because I like to prepare for things but this is something that I have wanted for a long time.

When I went to the doctor's office the next day I was ready, I felt calm and prepared. I knew that my life was about to change in a way that I desperately needed and wanted it to. Even though I was ready for this moment I was still super fucking nervous, I left my letters (the letters a therapist has to write for you in order to start your transition) at home so my mom had to run home and get them while I was filling out my paperwork.

After talking with my doctor and her giving me the okay to start, I found out that it would probably be another two weeks before I actually started T because of the insurance company handles the prescriptions. But the way things were working, I got home, my mom left, and fifteen minutes later I got a text saying my prescription was ready for pickup. Again, my time to prepare went from two weeks to instantly.

When I got picked up the prescription and went to the doctor's office to learn how to do my shots I knew everything was right. This whole process wasn't supposed to start until two months from now, and then when it started I was supposed to have two weeks to prepare because of the insurance company. But, it all started instantly and I'm SO thankful for that. If this process hadn't gone the way it did then I wouldn't have a really cool story to tell, I wouldn't have started T the day after my 20th birthday, and I wouldn't be able to tell the world that my mom really does go above and beyond for me. This wouldn't have been possible without her, she really went above and beyond for this one.

Thank you momma, I love you so much. TGFE.

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