Women and men have different definitions to what it means to be beautiful. Something certain to that definition is that they let society influence what it is to be really beautiful. Individuals look at themselves in the mirrors and attack their own looks by comparing themselves to the unachievable standards society represents. In magazines, music videos, TV shows, and movies, the prime epiphany is beauty and the way they represent it defies true beauty and what many consider to be truly beautiful.

This unrelenting force that affects millions, not only pertains to women but also to men. Modeling highlights the physical beauty in individuals and idolizes that to be beautiful, you need to achieve perfection. A perfect body, an attractive face, what society finds beautiful, are perfect features that not everybody has.

The pressure that "perfection" and "beauty" causes leads to many individuals going into extensive diets, or begin having eating disorders. Your body, is your temple. Your body pertains to you, and yes there are healthy benefits in exercising and eating healthy, but the motive many individuals use is the societal emphasis on the undisclosed, bias, self-centered idea that to be beautiful you have to pertain to the certain qualifications of "perfection". If individuals don't achieve that "bikini body" or "six pack", they are considered to be out of the norm, and worst of all, they are considered to be ugly.

As we continue to see the pressure society places on many individuals, we begin to take notice on what really is at stake here. A society that makes you feel ugly. A society that makes you look in the mirror and call yourself "not good enough."

I am writing this article to call out all those artists that put out a negative parasitic idea that if you don't look like them, you are ugly. Well let me call you out, Fergie, as an inspirational artist that I have followed since my childhood. I used to rock it out in my car to jams you made when you where part of the Black Eyed Peas. I would sing "I Gotta Feeling" at the top of my lungs every Friday night and ultimately those songs where the ones that made me want to go to your concert.

Let me tell you though, I am so disappointed by this new M.I.L.F.$ song and music video. Let me begin to ask you if you understand what M.I.L.F. even means? Well let me clearly state it out to you, that it stands for "Mother I'd Like to Fuck." Would you be okay calling your mom a M.I.L.F.? Would you be okay with your children watching you take a bath in a bathtub filled with milk? Or see you drenching yourself in milk, while dancing almost naked?

Yes, begin a movement to empower mothers and call them beautiful for the way they are. But do you think it is respectful to emphasize that to be considered a beautiful mother, you have to be drenched in milk and be called a slut shaming name--M.I.L.F.? This is just another example how popular norms begin taking a toll on people and the way they emphasize "beauty".

I love my mother for who she is, she is beautiful the way she is. Being her only son not only makes me look up to her even more by the way she has stood by me all my childhood and helped me when I was down, but it makes me have a certain respect. She is the best friend I love with all my heart and Fergie, I DO NOT, regard my mother as a M.I.L.F., but as beautiful. This is what you should be trying to get across to all those fans that love your music. That it is okay not be perfect, it okay to be a mother and still be beautiful.

My response to this music video is clear, not far fetched and it points out that videos like yours is what causes the insecurity, sense of unworthiness, and lack of self esteem in many young girls and boys. Not only is it more prone to teenagers and young adults, but now by imposing those standards on our own mothers has definitely crossed the line, especially when you refer to mothers, and even yourself, as someone "you'd like to fuck."

Fergie, use your talent for good. Use your outstanding, powerful, and amazing voice to make good music that impacts society and the way that it can break away from societal norms that affect millions of people these days. Empower mothers, empower girls, empower young teenagers to be proud of their own bodies, to be proud of their own selves. This is a message I would look up to, this is what I would be going and saying, "Wow, she really slayed it." Tell mothers that no matter the stretch marks, the upbringings of getting older, or the stress they encounter daily, they are beautiful in their own ways. That is something I would stand by your side with. That is something worth telling the world, to mothers, and to yourself.