I often surprise people with the statement, "I am in a fraternity," because they see "girl???" not "Frat-Brah!" Once I explain, a lot of people then don't see a lot of reasons to it beyond, "it's just a fancy way of saying you're in an honors society!" While yes, I am in Phi Sigma Pi National Honor Fraternity, which is an Honor organization, we have a lot more going for us! But, in the true spirit of being in this great organization, I will Pro/Con the benefits and not so great things about being a femme person in a fraternity.

Pro: I have astounding networking opportunities.

I get LinkedIn hits every week because I list my executive board positions on my profile.

Con: I wear letters and everyone sees a stereotypical sorority girl.

I mean, I'm not as pretty as those poster goddesses, but thank you. And this is problematic on multiple levels, like the fiercest, scariest, most collected women I know are sorority girls.

Pro: I am consistently improving myself to be a better person for my community.

In my organization, we are always striving to be the best people we can be, while also being givers and leaders for our communities.

Con: I'm running out of business casual outfits.

Can't look that stunning every Sunday.

Pro: My resume is on fire.

With everything I've done for the organization, to what the organization has done for me, all of this is easily transferred to my preferred field.

Con: "Does that mean you were born a boy?"

SO. MANY. PROBLEMATIC. PIECES. But I have actually heard this said. It was a hard day for us all. So, we hugged it out.

Pro: I'm going to have my brothers forever.

They are always going to have my back, love me unconditionally, and be ready to help me out when I need it, the way I will for them.

Con: Sometimes they're jerks.

But in the good way!