Feminism Is My Favorite F Word

Feminism Is My Favorite F Word

If we were created equally, then why do we not see each other that way?

The other day my roommates and I were having an in-depth conversation about something that was said in one of our classes. I have many opinions and I let them know what they are. All of a sudden one of them asked: “You’re a feminist, aren’t you?” At first, I was surprised… I did not realize that it showed so much! But then I was encouraged because my new roommate had a clearer understanding of my viewpoint than I thought she had.

Feminism is defined as “the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.” Yet sometimes it feels like feminism is less acceptable in the Church than the other F word. There are a few assumptions people have when they hear you say “I am a feminist.”

The first is that you must hate men. Please let me say that I do not hate men. I harbor no resentment towards them whatsoever! On a daily basis I interact with men who, whether they know it or not, are feminists themselves. They want equality of the sexes to exist in our culture and they do not see women as less than.

Another assumption people make when you say you are a feminist is that you would be angry if a man did something polite like holding a door open for you. Ooookay, I get this all the time. Here is my retort: I know you opened that door for me not because you think I am incapable, but because you are being polite. I will gladly accept that small act of chivalry because I am not intimidated by who you are. Holding a door open is a kind and polite gesture, in my eyes.

Many assume that there is no way a person can believe what the Bible says AND be a feminist. There is a way and I’m here to prove it. God created men and women equally and uniquely. We were made to work together, not overpower each other. If we were created equally, then why do we not see each other that way?

One of the best examples of this ideology in our culture (that women are physically inferior) is this Super Bowl ad:

I see how our culture has greatly affected our opinion of gender norms. Girls can be strong! There is no reason why we should be appalled that a girl is good at sports and a boy is good at art; that a new mother wants to go to work and her husband wants to stay home to take care of their child.

On this same train of thought, we need to remember that men can be vulnerable. In fact, there was a campaign that was started called “Man Up”. Studies have shown that many men feel they are not allowed to cry and still be “masculine.”This bottling up of emotions can cause heartbreak and even suicide. If you would like to watch the campaign ad it is here (Warning: strong language). The video shows men and boys crying, showing that emotions are not feminine, but human.

I am taken aback when a professor, in the middle of class, makes the over-generalization that a song can only be masculine if it is about power and feminine only if it is about emotions. It causes me so much frustration when my friend who wants to go on the mission field with an organization is not accepted because they will only accept males (single or married), not single females. It saddens me when women put down all men in a #metoo post when 1 in 7 of those men have been assaulted. I am a feminist because I believe men and women were created equally. I am a feminist because I give a sh*t about other human beings.

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My inspiration actually came from a man (God forbid, a man has ideas these days). One afternoon my boyfriend was telling me about a discussion his class had regarding female sports and how TV stations air fewer female competitions than that of males. In a room where he and his other male classmate were completely outnumbered, he didn't have much say in the discussion.

Apparently, it was getting pretty heated in the room, and the women in the class were going on and on about how society is unfair to women in this aspect and that respect for the female population is shrinking relative to the male population.

If we're being frank here, it's a load of bull.

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First of all, this is the 21st century. Women have never been more respected. Women have more rights in the United States than ever before. As far as sports go, TV stations are going to air the sports that get the most ratings. On a realistic level, how many women are turning on Sports Center in the middle of the day? Not enough for TV stations to make money. It's a business, not a boycott against female athletics.

Whatever happened to chivalry? Why is it so “old fashioned" to allow a man to do the dirty work or pay for meals? Feminists claim that this is a sign of disrespect, yet when a man offers to pick up the check or help fix a flat tire (aka being a gentleman), they become offended. It seems like a bit of a double standard to me. There is a distinct divide between both the mental and physical makeup of a male and female body. There is a reason for this. We are not equals. The male is made of more muscle mass, and the woman has a more efficient brain (I mean, I think that's pretty freaking awesome).

The male body is meant to endure more physical while the female is more delicate. So, quite frankly, at a certain point in life, there need to be restrictions on integrating the two. For example, during that same class discussion that I mentioned before, one of the young ladies in the room complained about how the NFL doesn't have female athletes. I mean, really? Can you imagine being tackled by a 220-pound linebacker? Of course not. Our bodies are different. It's not “inequality," it's just science.

And while I can understand the concern in regard to money and women making statistically less than men do, let's consider some historical facts. If we think about it, women branching out into the workforce is still relatively new in terms of history. Up until about the '80s or so, many women didn't work as much as they do now (no disrespect to the women that did work to provide for themselves and their families — you go ladies!). We are still climbing the charts in 2016.

Though there is still considered to be a glass ceiling for the working female, it's being shattered by the perseverance and strong mentality of women everywhere. So, let's stop blaming men and society for how we continue to “struggle" and praise the female gender for working hard to make a mark in today's workforce. We're doing a kick-ass job, let's stop the complaining.

I consider myself to be a very strong and independent female. But that doesn't mean that I feel the need to put down the opposite gender for every problem I endure. Not everything is a man's fault. Let's be realistic ladies, just as much as they are boneheads from time to time, we have the tendency to be a real pain in the tush.

It's a lot of give and take. We don't have to pretend we don't need our men every once in a while. It's OK to be vulnerable. Men and women are meant to complement one another — not to be equal or to over-power. The genders are meant to balance each other out. There's nothing wrong with it.

I am all for being a proud woman and having confidence in what I say and do. I believe in myself as a powerful female and human being. However, I don't believe that being a female entitles me to put down men and claim to be the “dominant" gender. There is no “dominant" gender. There's just men and women. Women and men. We coincide with each other, that's that.

Time to embrace it.

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