This evening, I read a pretty hilarious article written by a fellow Bahamian Andrew Bain at 10th Year Seniors titled The Savage Evolution of the Bahamian Female. Not only was it hysterically written but while reading I couldn’t help but nod in agreement with the undeniable accuracy. Hats off Andrew!

To the females who may have read it and are probably giving me a side-eye, I assure you, it’ll all make sense in the end.

As described by the author a savage is, “a person who gorilla pimps their way through the dating world…in this case, a female that uses men for her own pleasure while she’s out here killing it …but just doesn’t have time for the relationship bullshit.” Fair enough. You see, he asserts that this shift in our dating culture is the effect of long-term unfaithfulness and thoughtlessness by our Bahamian men for generations. He argues that the cyclic nature of generational infidelities has led our women to pursue more strategic avenues of achieving our happy ending.

In short, we’re tired of being handed the short end of the stick.

More importantly though I like that he keeps it real in letting women know that despite our clever ability to be just as savage as men in the end the only person we’re really deceiving is ourselves. Here are some facts he discussed and the reasons why I agree:

• First of all: you truly cannot out savage a savage. Frankly, it’s exhausting and we as females get winded fairly quickly. The reality is, long before the savagery days of VH1 idols such as Flava-Flav, males have always had savage role models guiding and shaping them through their savagery experiences. They’ve been in training. From the day males learn the rules of the pimp game, they begin pursuing. And the pursuit never stops. It never ceases and it never sleeps. They function largely on the premise of getting what they want, which is usually pussy. Every single time they like a picture or don’t like a picture, send a message or don’t send a message; it’s all calculated down to the T. Sure ladies, now-a-days we have savage role models too, like Nicki Minaj, Rihana and Amber Rose teaching girls "How to be a bad bitch." However, savagery skills which have been crafted and perfected cannot compare to the whimsical tactics we would so love to think go under the radar.
• Not only do men have the upper hand in experience when it comes to savagery, they also have the upper hand in emotional regulation. I like that he highlighted this in his article. You see, we women are delicate creatures, and truthfully we don’t take being denied very well. Men on the other hand, well, suffice to say I have witnessed the hardships of rejection first hand. Living vicariously in this nature through my guy friends has opened my eyes to the reality of the extent men will go to just to impress a female.
  Personally, I can’t say that I know that many females willing to extend themselves repeatedly just for a maybe. Much less a flat out no. God forbid we get turned down in some way shape or form, then its all hell break loose. We immediately begin strategizing how we intend to turn you down the next time or rather we take to social media and indulge in a good ole’ heaping of subliminal messaging. How do males typically handle rejection you ask? Well, as he noted they’re so used to it that they don’t even blink when it happens, men simply laugh and keep it going.
• Which leads to my final conclusion as to why we, women, are not true savages by nature. We're soft, and we really just want one good one. Every single one of us, for the most part that is. I’m sure we’ve all heard the phrase “its quality over quantity.” This phrase actually transcends far beyond its superficial meaning for us, ladies. Naturally we are more inclined to search for someone with whom we hope to shower us with security, stability and affection. We search for someone we hope to be a compassionate caregiver one day. Men, on the other hand, are driven to ensure a successful lineage, by any means. That’s it. This is to say that our overall physiological needs and desires as men and women, are very different. Thus, our strategies should and would reflect our greater personal goal.

With this in mind then, there’s no need to compete really. It’s almost ridiculous to think that the act of savagery among sexes could even be considered a competition. Ladies as much as we would love to “think like a man,” to be able to outsmart the opposite sex, the truth is there’s really no benefit in doing so. How often do we see “Think like a lady,” books being published, for men?
But, I digress.
For those ‘wanna-be’ lady savages out there staying loyal to the game but continuously getting hurt in the process, I encourage you wisely; date at the level of your savagery.

Link to the article by A.Bain: http://10thyearseniors.com/2016/03/11/the-savage-evolution-of-the-bahamian-female/