Lately, the days have been getting to me. I feel as if there are more negative than positive things so far about 2019 as far as my life goes. It seems as though things are taking a wrong turn or that there are reasons that the negative things are happening so consistently. Maybe I have bad luck or I'm doing something wrong.
Either way, something needs to be done. I won't just sit and watch my life play out like a movie that I wish was happening. I want to star in the movie.
I've come up with 3 things that will help me to dig myself out of the ditch that the world has decided to place me in.
1. Put yourself first so that you can rely on yourself.
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What I mean by this is that I've discovered that I can't always trust those around me to keep their word about stuff. I find that I can only rely on myself truthfully when I need something done. Unfortunately, more times than not, I've gotten screwed by those I thought loved me and looked after me and are "there for me."
I want to invest more positive energy into myself and tell myself that I'm what I need to get sh*t done. There's no need to go out of my way to either rely on or please others. I'm what matters most to me.
2. Plan things out in your head and write them down exactly as you want them.
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I usually can't envision something without writing the idea down since I'm a very visual person. I need to have the idea on paper so that when I try to go back and reimagine it, I can because all of the details are there.
This is also how I'm hoping something goes as planned, it doesn't mean that it will. But I feel like if I can envision it and work towards it, the odds should fall in my favor. If I go into something blind with no critical thinking or headway first, I may just get let down. That wouldn't be good for my morale or my depression.
3. No matter what, pick yourself back up and move along.
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Moving on from something devastating, life-changing or really irritating can be difficult because you don't want to let something go. I know for who I am, I'm the stubborn person who holds grudges because I never want to forget what happened and in the way that I remember it happening.
If something negative befalls me, I want to have that ingrained into my mind the way that I saw it and felt it happen to me, and I don't want to have to care what others think or how they interpreted it or even their perspective on the matter or issue.
The problem with doing that though is that when I hold a grudge, it's pointless because the right-minded people will know that they just need to move on and put it behind them. And therefore, that's what I'll have to do.
So instead of having that negative attitude and outlook, I just put it out of my mind and move on.
If you've already found yourself in any of these situations, here is your call to action (though you shouldn't need one). If something isn't right, go fix it. Don't expect anyone else to wipe up after you for you because the world doesn't work like that. Be responsible for yourself and leave everyone else to their obligations.
I promise you'll live your life much more fully and happily.
