Feeling stuck in life

For Those Failing & Falling Behind

For those times when you’re feeling stuck and think you’re not moving forward


How do you keep moving forward? Even when it feels like you're spinning your wheels. Trying to get somewhere but not quite gaining ground. That's what I've been going through this year. Making to-do list after to-do list yet barely making a dent in them as the week flies by.

It's exhausting and the feeling of incompetence grows day by day. In efforts to catch up and get my sh*t together I've neglected important parts of my life in the process. I've been pushing things aside like having a social life, relationships and vacations in favor of grinding and isolation. Somehow thinking that when I'm in a better place I'll be able to indulge without guilt.

This endless cycle of moving the goalpost further and further away means you never get a chance to celebrate a win, but that's not what I'm doing here. I'm working on myself to become a person I'm proud of. Someone who's happy and accomplished and living their dreams. So I grind, I listen to audiobooks on my way to work, once I go home I work on my skills taking courses online. I attend networking events, plan out projects for the future, pile it on and on. UntiI I not only forget why I started but I lose all sense of enjoyment and creativity.

It wasn't until after flaming out again and intending on bashing myself in my bullet journal that I got some perspective. I read the last page, where I put down goals that seemed long term and unattainable at the time of writing. It listed simple stuff like fixing and paying off my car. Getting a new computer and a job that met my ask.

I have all these things now, almost the entire list. I've achieved all but two items on that list. I remembered thinking how relieved I'd feel if I'd only been able to complete just one of those tasks. It's been months now and I never got that relief. I blew past those goals in a frenzy while forging towards the next one.

Now months later, after already having what I wanted I'm still in a place of lack. It was a wild realization, how many of my accomplishments are shadowed by future goals. There I was moving the goalpost further and further away. I want to find a balance between burning out and being complacent. I stumbled across a newsletter that helped me find perspective.

It's not the usual, hustle everyday or life will pass you by motivation fix I was creating daily. It helps remind me to take it slow at times and ACKNOWLEDGE my accomplishments. To own the relief that comes with getting something you wanted and worked for. I've even gone as far as keeping a done list to calm my anxieties because I realized that although I may never be satisfied with my progress. At least I'll be able to look back and see how far I've come.

If you've ever felt that way, please step back. Look way back and that pride and what you've accomplished so far. If you don't, who will! No one know how hard you worked but you. Stop beating yourself up! One of my favorite quotes is "a good protagonist can get themselves in and out of trouble.” At whatever stage you are on your journey know that you got this and you've made it this far. Sounds cheesy but write your intentions down and circle back from time to time. Relax and be relieved, also if you have trouble telling yourself let me say this now. Good job! Way to go!

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A Letter To High School Seniors On Graduation Day

The rest of your life begins today.

Dear High School Senior,

Today's the day you've been waiting for your whole life. You'll wake up a little earlier than usual, brush your teeth and go downstairs for your last breakfast as a high school student. Your mom will look at you with tears running down her cheeks wondering how her baby grew up so quickly. Your friends will be texting your group message non-stop with words of disbelief, wondering where the time went. You guys made it to the day you've been counting down to all year long.

You'll start to reminisce on things like your first pep rally and the dorky outfits you wore freshman year. You'll laugh at things your old teachers did and remember the ones who left to teach somewhere else. You'll wonder how the guys in your grade actually managed to grow up and laugh at how young you all looked when you had just begun. You'll remember all of the football games you attended and consider how strange it will be seeing other people wearing your guy friends' numbers when the Thanksgiving game rolls around. You'll drive by the soccer field and think of all the blood, sweat and tears you gave to it over your high school career.

You'll recall your first real kiss and joke about how upset you were when the first boy broke your heart. It'll feel like yesterday when you walk through those doors for the final time and look around at all of the empty lockers. You'll gather with your classmates together in the same place for the last time and think about how you're all going to be in different places next year. You'll be excited but nervous because in a few hours, life as you know it will change.

So before you sit down to hear the Valedictorian's speech and walk the stage to receive your diploma, make sure you take the time to appreciate the memories you made in those halls. Thank your teachers, even the difficult ones, because when you're sitting down in your first college class, you'll feel grateful for the work they made you do. Thank your parents for supporting you. It's not easy raising a teenager, but they did not give up on you regardless of how brutal puberty was.

Thank your friends. They're the ones that got you through your first heartbreak and made sure that you were going to be okay. They listened to your complaints after a big fight with your mom, even if they thought you were wrong. They forgave you when you were wrong and understood your bad days. They stood up for you when you got yourself in a bad situation. They brought you coffee when you didn't have time to get it yourself. They took you home when you couldn't make it there alone. They celebrated your good news and helped you through the bad. They made you laugh uncontrollably and created memories that you'll hold on to forever. They made you who you are today.

After you receive your diploma and throw your cap in the air, make the most of the time you have left with your high school friends before you all head off to college. You only have a few months before you're sitting in a dorm room surrounded by unfamiliar faces. Work, but don't forget that memories last longer than money. Go to the beach, take lots of pictures, go out on Friday nights and enjoy the days that summer has to give. Trust me, college will be awesome, but you'll never be the same person that you are today.


Your College Self

SEE ALSO: 11 Pieces Of Advice All High School Students Need To Hear

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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