FHere are 11 pieces of the best advie I have to offer, most of the advice on this list I have yet to take myself.

1. Do not make life decisions based on friends or a significant other

This is so important. I am seeing more often, people who believe in everyone more than themselves. You have one life, you should aim to live it as best as you can by your own standards. Expand on your own life before you work on your life with someone else. Base decisions off of things you want, places you wish to go, and dreams that you believe in. If you spend your entire life aiming to please others, you will never please yourself.

2. Some people just are not ready for you, and you cannot make them be ready

If you spend time trying to change someone or “make them ready” to move forward with you, you will just be heart broken in the end. Not everyone has your intentions, not everyone has your mindset, and most importantly not everyone has your heart. You cannot change anyone, you could be investing that time into someone who actually is ready to be with you and is crazy about you. Focus on the potential person that truly cares about you, they are out there just look harder.

3. Forgive others, but more importantly forgive yourself

First of all, let it go. You are human. You will make mistakes, but the biggest

mistake you could make is dwelling on a mistake. Second of all, forgive others so that you can have a sense of peace regardless if they are apologetic or not. There will come a time that you will also need forgiveness, you cannot expect something that you are not willing to give. Forgiving a person does not make you weak, it makes you strong enough to realize that life is too damn short to be petty and wait around to go tit for tat. Forgive them, and live your life in peace.

4. Live in the moment, not in photographs

Let me make this clear, I am not saying do not take photographs or make memories. Do those things. However, in the society we live in I find many people from my generation, including myself spend time on social media connecting with others or taking selfies to make moments last. When in reality, seeing the world for what it is, is even more special. Breathe in the air, find beauty in nature, and cherish the here and now.

5. Women, uplift your fellow women

Ladies this is crucial. How many times do we find ourselves staring at pictures envious of other women? Do not put on a front, we are all guilty. I know I have been guilty of insulting other women out of jealousy, or spite. Truth be told, Women are beautiful and we all have something special to offer the world. Instead of hating on one another we should empower one another and give each other confidence when it is lost. Women need other women to all join forces against the men-the true enemies hahaha…totally kidding..well kind of!

6. College is NOT for everyone

Yes, you read that right. College is not for everyone and you are not any less of a person if you never attended and have no intention of ever attending. I know people who have attended college and lack intelligence and likewise never have attended college and are more intelligent than those that have. Point being, college is an option and not everyone has to take it; you are not any better because you have a degree or are searching for one. Please, do not look down on people who have no interest in college, you may be working for them one day.

7. Find your voice and use it

We all have things we would like to express. Your voice makes you different from the person to your left and right, allow your voice to be unique. Use your voice to develop your character, allow your voice to differ from those around you. Someone does not like what you have to say? Good, appreciate diversity. Praise to the 1^st amendment. Make sure your voice says something worth hearing.

8. Yes, money makes a difference but do not let it make you different

I grew up without much money, therefore over time I have certainly learned the value of a dollar. People seem to think money is the root of all evil-- whether you agree with this statement or not, we have all witnessed money makes a difference in a large way. Money is temporary at the end of the day; sure, it will always be around but does it actually control happiness? If so, find a new hobby, you are worth a lot, and ironically enough, there are more valuable things than money-- find them.

9. Numbers are numbers

Numbers are for measuring and counting, they are not you. A number will never define you. Age, weight, height, GPA, test scores, etc. are just numbers, they control nothing. You are who you are and would be that person even if a number changed. Stop letting minuscule things dictate how you live your life.

10. Do not judge anyone

Try not to judge anyone, I know it is inevitable. Unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes, you have no idea what has happened to make them the way they are. We all fight battles, we all have challenges, we all have bad days. We judge like it is second nature, but I guarantee if we knew all of the struggles of other people it would make it almost impossible to judge them and their lifestyle/life choices.

11. Say 'I love you' more!

Do not be afraid to use the word love. No seriously, I use it every day a million times a day. I want people in my company to understand that I truly appreciate them and love them. I love people who make me laugh, listen to me, tolerate me, and lastly I love people who love me in return. It is not weird to say, it is not too strong of a word. People like hearing it, and I love saying it. It could make a bad day good, and warm a heart. Please use the word love more often.