Fear Is Normal... Fight It

Fear Is Normal... Fight It

Don't let the idea of ambiguity ruin the good you have in front of you.
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Fear. The one emotion that has complete and utter control of your being. Fear has the capability of revoking our deepest desires. It has the ability to suppress our greatest plans. It can be debilitating and incredibly dangerous. It's an emotion that trumps all others: desire, faith, love.

Do not let fear paralyze you. Don’t let it ruin the good you have in front of you. Your thoughts and emotions may be all over the map, and that’s okay. Keep those people who are able to unearth your vulnerability and insecurities. Cling to these people who inspire you to be who you are outside of Instagram and Facebook.

Don’t let the fear of missing out, the fear of choosing the wrong person, the fear of the unknown, or the fear of being rejected keep you from pursuing your future. Because there’s always that ‘what if’. What if I get that promotion? What if I receive that internship?

What if he/she really is THE one for me? Don’t let your temporary satisfaction dictate your future happiness. Don't let the fear of failure be the reason you don't apply or pursue. Apply and pursue what makes your heart happy.

Do what you love and do it well. Apply for that internship in Colorado, move to DC for that semester, bike from Austin to Alaska for cancer. Be incredible, be fearless, live intentionally. Live to grow, to spread knowledge, to inspire. Make moves to make waves in your life and in the life of those around you.

You were designed for greatness, embrace it. Nerves are normal. Rejection happens. But don’t let fear overwhelm you from doing what truly fulfills you. Life is hard, it’s scary, and it’s full of (really big) decisions. Don't let fear keep you from being the best version of you.

In my life, I have been rejected in every capacity, in every way, multiple times. I have let anxiety control my thoughts and actions for many years. Anxiety is rooted in fear, fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of disappointment. I got to a point to where I had to choose to step past fear to allow myself opportunities.

Every. Single. Day. Is a battle.

But I am much happier for pursuing people, for loving through my pain, fearlessly and intentionally. While rejection hurts, don't let it possess you. Cope, grieve, dust off your knees and get back at it. Get yourself up, regroup and move forward. Let yourself be inspired by those around you, rather than jealous. Apologize even when you don’t feel like you've done wrong and learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Be purposeful, be vulnerable, be intentional and you will be successful in moving past whatever fear is holding you back. Keep the people around who love you and support you endlessly. Keep the people who encourage you to be better, to love harder, and to laugh more.

These are the kinds of people who understand life is short. If you die tomorrow, would you be happy with where you left things? With your accomplishments thus far? Where do the relationships in your life currently stand? Are you happy with these? If not, I highly suggest you act now.

Every single day you should wake up and feel secure and confident in your decisions. Don't waste your time playing games, playing girls, or playing with your emotions. Be intentional in what you do and who you do it with. Do life with people who encourage you and support you. Find love and laughter in every capacity.

Find it in your friends, in intimate relationships, in mentorships, and in your family. Push past the fears of rejection, loss, and heartache so you can truly experience happiness in this difficult life.

Be intentional with your pursuit of people. Don't be discouraged. Live your life to the best of your ability. Life happens, friends betray you, you don't get accepted, and love sometimes hurts. You will fall down, but get back up and start again. Don't let your past rejections become a fear. Continue to pursue what your heart wants, don't fight the desire, embrace it and intentionally work towards that.

Life is too short to let fear get in the way of the people you pursue. Don't let it get it in the way of the things you want to pursue. Don't let it get in the way of your ambition. There will always be other opportunities, other jobs, other 'fish in the sea'. But when you have something good, when you have something that inspires you, when you have something that pushes you to be better- hold on to that with intentionality, with purpose, and with great passion.

Choose to fight fear to live intentionally. Apply for that out-of-state internship, ask for those letters of recommendation, ask a mentor for advice, bike 4,000 for cancer. Surround yourself with people who continue to inspire you, support you, and encourage you. Wake up and have the courage to do something greater than yourself. Understand that the journey is going to be tough, but the end will be so much sweeter for pushing past your fears for intentional living.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.
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Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs.

In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm...

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Buying New Clothes Every Month Has Been The Key To Helping Me Become Happy With My Body Again

Loving my body in new outfits has boosted my self image so much.

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Being body-positive has been really hard for me to do throughout 2019, despite there being an overwhelming surge in body-positivity around me, whether through my friends and family or YouTube. I look in the mirror and what I see is someone I want to make a jean size or two smaller like in the past. That being said, I've slowly been coming around to accepting the body I have now, instead of bashing it constantly. A key way I've come to accept the body I'm in now is through buying myself something new every month, like a new T-shirt or a pair of jeans or sneakers that help me see myself in a positive light. When I'm in a new outfit, I feel invincible. I don't think about how pudgy my stomach is, or about the hair I have growing in random places, like my neck or on my nose (yes, not just in, but ON too).

My bank account tends to suffer as of recently because of this, but it's worth it when I can genuinely feel good in what I am wearing every day. I like to wake up and think about how many outfits I can put together, ready to post my #OOTD for Snapchat without caring what anyone thinks. I've let social media dictate how I feel about myself more than I care to admit. I see how perfect all the models are in everything they're wearing from brands I know and love, yet when I try the same thing on, it's a whole different ugly story.

I don't enjoy trying things on to avoid the shame I feel when things don't fit me right, or if something that I thought would flatter me actually makes me look like a sack of potatoes. Instagram has really hurt my body image a lot — enough to make me delete it for a week after one post sent me spiraling. Going through those bumps made me finally realize it's not my fault if something doesn't fit. Sizes range depending on the item, it's the clothing items fault, not mine. Now that I see that, it's easier to brush off something not fitting me as it should. I know my size very well in the stores I frequent the most, so it's easier for me to pick out things I know will look good and not have to worry about the sizing issue.

Buying yourself something new is not something you should limit to every few months or longer. You shouldn't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone price wise every once and a while either. Coupons exist, stories always offer you them when you first sign up to receive emails and even texts. You can be crafty and still get a high price item for less. If you treat yourself to cheap things, you won't feel half as good as you want to. Granted, sticking to a limit is important but there's no shame in going over the limit every once and a while.

I love shopping as much as I love country music and writing short stories — a lot. Yes, I get yelled at almost every time I get something new. I need to save my money for important things, like for my sorority or for medical issues that could suddenly arise, or for utilities at my house next year off campus.

However, my mental well-being is not something I can ignore.

I can't push the good feelings aside to save 30 or 40 bucks a month. I don't want to feel as low as I've felt about myself anymore. I'm tired of feeling sad or angry at who I am, and I want to learn how to accept myself as I am. Buying myself something new, like clothes, is what offers a positive light to view myself under.

Whether you treat yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant, or to face masks, or to a new movie when it comes out — don't be afraid to do it. Put yourself first and you'll realize your worth and how much you've been ignoring it in the face of poor confidence.

My confidence isn't back up to where it used to be, but it's getting there.

It may not be the most cash efficient method of self-love, but my body positivity is better than it was a few months ago. Aerie and American Eagle have really helped me become happier with my body, and I can't thank them enough for being more inclusive for people like me who are learning to love themselves again in a new body.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel for all of us hoping to promote our own body positivity, and it could all start with a simple purchase from your favorite store after you read this.

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