Fear Is Normal... Fight It

Fear Is Normal... Fight It

Don't let the idea of ambiguity ruin the good you have in front of you.
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Fear. The one emotion that has complete and utter control of your being. Fear has the capability of revoking our deepest desires. It has the ability to suppress our greatest plans. It can be debilitating and incredibly dangerous. It's an emotion that trumps all others: desire, faith, love.

Do not let fear paralyze you. Don’t let it ruin the good you have in front of you. Your thoughts and emotions may be all over the map, and that’s okay. Keep those people who are able to unearth your vulnerability and insecurities. Cling to these people who inspire you to be who you are outside of Instagram and Facebook.

Don’t let the fear of missing out, the fear of choosing the wrong person, the fear of the unknown, or the fear of being rejected keep you from pursuing your future. Because there’s always that ‘what if’. What if I get that promotion? What if I receive that internship?

What if he/she really is THE one for me? Don’t let your temporary satisfaction dictate your future happiness. Don't let the fear of failure be the reason you don't apply or pursue. Apply and pursue what makes your heart happy.

Do what you love and do it well. Apply for that internship in Colorado, move to DC for that semester, bike from Austin to Alaska for cancer. Be incredible, be fearless, live intentionally. Live to grow, to spread knowledge, to inspire. Make moves to make waves in your life and in the life of those around you.

You were designed for greatness, embrace it. Nerves are normal. Rejection happens. But don’t let fear overwhelm you from doing what truly fulfills you. Life is hard, it’s scary, and it’s full of (really big) decisions. Don't let fear keep you from being the best version of you.

In my life, I have been rejected in every capacity, in every way, multiple times. I have let anxiety control my thoughts and actions for many years. Anxiety is rooted in fear, fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of disappointment. I got to a point to where I had to choose to step past fear to allow myself opportunities.

Every. Single. Day. Is a battle.

But I am much happier for pursuing people, for loving through my pain, fearlessly and intentionally. While rejection hurts, don't let it possess you. Cope, grieve, dust off your knees and get back at it. Get yourself up, regroup and move forward. Let yourself be inspired by those around you, rather than jealous. Apologize even when you don’t feel like you've done wrong and learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Be purposeful, be vulnerable, be intentional and you will be successful in moving past whatever fear is holding you back. Keep the people around who love you and support you endlessly. Keep the people who encourage you to be better, to love harder, and to laugh more.

These are the kinds of people who understand life is short. If you die tomorrow, would you be happy with where you left things? With your accomplishments thus far? Where do the relationships in your life currently stand? Are you happy with these? If not, I highly suggest you act now.

Every single day you should wake up and feel secure and confident in your decisions. Don't waste your time playing games, playing girls, or playing with your emotions. Be intentional in what you do and who you do it with. Do life with people who encourage you and support you. Find love and laughter in every capacity.

Find it in your friends, in intimate relationships, in mentorships, and in your family. Push past the fears of rejection, loss, and heartache so you can truly experience happiness in this difficult life.

Be intentional with your pursuit of people. Don't be discouraged. Live your life to the best of your ability. Life happens, friends betray you, you don't get accepted, and love sometimes hurts. You will fall down, but get back up and start again. Don't let your past rejections become a fear. Continue to pursue what your heart wants, don't fight the desire, embrace it and intentionally work towards that.

Life is too short to let fear get in the way of the people you pursue. Don't let it get it in the way of the things you want to pursue. Don't let it get in the way of your ambition. There will always be other opportunities, other jobs, other 'fish in the sea'. But when you have something good, when you have something that inspires you, when you have something that pushes you to be better- hold on to that with intentionality, with purpose, and with great passion.

Choose to fight fear to live intentionally. Apply for that out-of-state internship, ask for those letters of recommendation, ask a mentor for advice, bike 4,000 for cancer. Surround yourself with people who continue to inspire you, support you, and encourage you. Wake up and have the courage to do something greater than yourself. Understand that the journey is going to be tough, but the end will be so much sweeter for pushing past your fears for intentional living.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

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You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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How To Avoid Getting Sick Your  Freshman Year

It's going to take a little more than an apple a day.

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College is the prime time and place to catch a cold... or worse. Although, somehow I managed to crack the code to health and not get sick my whole first year of college. This is surprising considering I was living in the close (and very unsanitary) quarters of a dorm room.

1. Keep your diet somewhat healthy

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I know how hard it is to eat healthy in college, especially on a low budget. But with the dining hall foods, you can at least include some vegetables and fruits into your everyday consumption. The vitamins in these foods will help keep your immune system up and it will be worth the effort.

2. Try to exercise a few times per week

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Even if you're just getting out of the dorm for a thirty minute walk, it will benefit your body. If you decide to up your routine from that, even better! The more endorphins, the more you will feel better inside and out.

3. Cut back on the drinking if you feel a cold coming on

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Surprisingly, many college students don't seem to know that alcohol lowers your immune system. Of course, for some people theres no way of avoiding drinking. But if you can at least give your body rest days, it will be extremely beneficial.

4. Invest in a dehumidifier for your dorm room

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I believe this was a very big player in helping me not get sick. The dehumidifier helps reduce dust and other particles in the air. This will help not agitate your allergies and you will feel more clear headed.

5. Try not to share personal products

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Sharing things like towels, makeup, unwashed cups, etc. can all be causes of a sickness being passed around you and your friends. Of course sharing is caring, just make sure it's sanitary.

6. Be conscientious of who you kiss!

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Make sure that your girlfriend, boyfriend, or "its complicated" person is not sick before you're getting cozy with them.

7. Drink lots of green tea!

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Personally, I credit green tea and its anti-oxidants for keeping the flu away and even getting rid of bugs that might be forming in your system. So if you feel like you might be developing a cold, chug that tea!

I know how annoying these tips may be. But I promise, if you implement at least a few it could reduce your chances of feeling horrible during midterms in the winter, and sneezing all over your finals in the fall.

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