Let’s face it, we’ve all been through a couple of mornings where our biggest enemy was our mirror. You know the type of morning I’m talking about; your hair won’t do anything, that zit on your forehead looks like a bolder, and you can’t find anything to wear in your closet full of clothes. You look in that mirror and stare at yourself pointing things out, changing them in your mind, and imagining how much better you would look if you could just change yourself. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just love the image that looks back at us?
Living in a society that's constantly telling us that we aren't good enough can start to wear on a person, literally. Fashion has forever been a symbol of who we are as people. It speaks volumes about us without us even having to say a word. I see it all the time, beautiful women of all ages alike wearing clothes that don't say anything about their personality at all. Instead, their clothes say "I wish I wasn't this size”, "I wish I was comfortable in my own body”, “I wish I was prettier", or "I wish I didn't care what people think". I myself am guilty of this. It can be hard enough feeling comfortable and confident with who you are without seeing the constant sticker that society slaps on our foreheads labeling us as something that we don't want to be. Insecurities haunt us like ex-boyfriends weighing us down until we feel like we are drowning in our own thoughts, and that just sucks. I think what happens is that we develop these bad habits of self-destruction that ultimately end up defining who we THINK we are. In reality, though, it doesn't have to define us. These habits that we form are simple but dangerous ones. We hide our bodies in clothes that are three sizes too big just hoping that no one will be able to imagine what we might look like underneath. We blame our bland wardrobe on the fact that we don't have the time or the “right look” to wear the things that deep down we know we want to. We don't let ourselves enjoy that cupcake that we want so badly because we are obsessed with not gaining a pound. We are a generation of lost confidence that has drifted far into the current of regret and sadness. Sounds dark doesn’t it? That's because it is.
Growing up a size 00 in a tight knit group of girlfriends who were a size 3 and up there was always a constant struggle of confidence, on both ends. Nothing made me sadder than to hear my friends talk about how much they hated their bodies and how they wished they could have been small like me. I wish they could see what I see. I wish they could have seen how absolutely beautiful they were, not only on the outside but also on the inside. Their curves and hips made me envious and I began to lose confidence in my body, in the image that God made me to be. It's within my freshman year of college that I have come to accept my body for what it is, powerful. I didn't accept it in a way that I just came to terms with taking it for what it is, but I truly accepted it and started to look at myself differently. I started to appreciate my body more because I realized that there are people who look up to me and who's confidence I effect when I don't even know it, like my little sister. We have such a big impact on the young girls and women sitting right beside us in our daily lives, and that is powerful.
We were not made to all be the same size, how boring of a world would that be? We were made to be beautiful in our own ways, in our own unique bodies. Seeing that my friends wanted to be more like me and I wanted to be more like them shows that no matter what shape and size we are we all fall into a trap of wanting to be something that we aren't when we should be focused on accepting and loving who we are. Comparing ourselves to other people who we think are prettier, thinner, even happier than us can be so unhealthy. It's ok to want those things, and to strive to be a better person, to push ourselves to go to the gym, put a little extra effort in our look in the mornings, and of course to be happier. What’s not ok though is to obsesses over being someone different. We do this so other people will be more accepting of us, and that is when we become tangled up in what society says mattering.
However, I am here to tell you that you are beautiful, and that you hold so much more power than you know, you simply must wear it.
Products Shown:
Chanel Rouge Coco Shine Hydrating Lipshine in "54 boy" http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/chanel-rouge-coco-shin...
Chanel Rouge Allure Luminous Intense Lip Colour in "94 exatique" http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/chanel-rouge-allure-lu...
Chanel Coco Mademoiselle
http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/chanel-coco-mademoisel...
Laura Geller Baked Blush n Brighten in "fruit punch" and "tropic hues"
http://www.laurageller.com/blush-n-brighten.html
