Father's Day is right around the corner and I feel it is important to bring up the overall topic of family. If there is one thing that I have learned in my 20 years on this planet, it is that family doesn't mean blood. When I was born, my biological dad left and that is OK, because I got my real dad just five years later. The point I am making is that I do not call my family the people that I am related to by blood. It is horribly frustrating to hear people say things like, "Well, I forgave them because they are my family member and you don't give up on family."
I have to disagree.
The most painful feeling I have ever felt just happened a few weeks ago. There is nothing quite as painful as watching someone you love feel so broken and destroyed. My heart still aches from watching them being torn apart by people that claimed to be their family. Family is suppose to love and support one another, not suffocate them with greed. Money is poison for love and families.
Families don't unlawfully and unethically attack other family members to obtain power and money. I do not care if they are your mother or father, this is not something that you do. Family members don't manipulate and lie to turn others against each other. No. These are sociopaths and downright evil people. Blood or not, family is love and support. Yes, family members are frustrating and sometimes you want to just yell and scream at them because they are crazy, but that doesn't mean you don't love them. Family also doesn't just choose to show up whenever they feel like it. You are to always be there for your family, not only when it is convenient.
Family isn't a right, it is a privilege. Do not waste your breath over people that purposely seek to hurt you, whether that is your mother or your brother. People shouldn't feel entitled to something because they were blood related. That is what made this so difficult and why I am writing this article. Two people I love gave so much love and support to people they thought were family, to people that were greedy and vindictive. Without a second thought, my family and I took them in as our family. We have supported them and sought to protect them to assure their success in life and happiness. I've dropped everything to make sure these people feel this way and I expect nothing in return.
That is family.
Life is too short to waste it on stupid things. You can destroy your own family for greed and power, but on your deathbed you will only be accompanied by hate and evil. When you are in your last moments, you don't think of the things that you wish you had boughten, but the people you should have loved more.
Take everyday to remember how wonderful and amazing the people that you call your family. Think of what you can do more and how you can love more. Money is not forever, but family is.
Take this into consideration when deciding on who you call your family and love with all your heart.
You choose your family.
