As much as we crave it sometimes, not everyone is ready to fall in love. Before jumping into a relationship, you need to not only be confident with yourself but also in your likes and dislikes. Most importantly though, you need to be confident in what you love. Whether it's listening to live music or traveling the world, what you love defines who you are and will set the path for what and how you love in the future. I think one of the biggest mistakes we make is looking to find someone else before we find ourselves. You are what you love, so it's important to know what it is that makes you who you are. Here are four important things everyone should fall in love with before falling in love with another person.
1. Places
It could be anywhere from the park down the block from your house to somewhere you visited across the world that you just simply fell in love with at first sight, but you need that place. The place that makes you feel whole, happy, safe and loved. Somewhere that you went and immediately knew it was your safe haven. Your place.
2. Music
You may not think this one is important but it is. Music is a bigger part of us than we realize. There's not a doubt in my mind that you haven't caught yourself singing your favorite song in the shower or humming a corny jingle you heard on a commercial, and it's almost in a self-soothing way. Singing has been proven to boost your mood almost immediately, so how can you not be content when you're listening to or singing your favorite songs? A good song is the cure to every bad day, every broken heart and can also make any good day better. It's relatable when your sad and fun when you're happy. At least for me, the music I love has become a part of who I am, and I think it's important for everyone to have that outlet of listening to something they love.
3. Hobbies
Soccer, bike riding, knitting, running, whatever it may be, fall in love with a hobby. Something you can do regularly and something that makes you feel good about yourself and gives you a sense of identity. Having a hobby is a good escape for when you can't get your mind off something. You can go and focus on something else and something that you love. Instead of feeling like you have to rely on a person to make you happy, rely on a hobby.
4. Yourself
Lastly, and definitely most importantly, fall in love with yourself. Not in a conceited way or thinking you're better than anyone else, but seeing all the good and the bad in yourself and accepting who you are as a person. You're own weird quirky sense of humor or your huge heart? Now those are things to fall in love with. Make sure you know your worth and how amazing your beautiful self is, so that you know to accept nothing less than the love you have for yourself when it comes time. No one wants to love someone who doesn't love themselves. Self-doubt and insecurity can be seen from a mile away, and that opens the door to let someone else go and doubt you (and we don't want that). Show the world that you love every single one of your flaws and all of a sudden, they will be seen as your perfections.
Places, music, hobbies and yourself. Four things that can make you feel better and are essential to your happiness; now go fall in love with them.
