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Expectations Should not Be Expected in relationships

Because your significant other cannot read minds.

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Expectations Should not Be Expected in relationships
Lauren Moore

I often look at my relationship and smile; how wonderful of a man my boyfriend is, and how much I prayed to have someone like him in my life. If you are around me at any point of the day, you will often hear me talk about him and tell stories with him in them.

I share all of the good things: things like our movie dates, trips to get food, and memories from an assortment of vacations. What I do not tell most people, however, is when I'm disappointed. I will become upset when my expectations are not met, and that's the problem. They are expectations.


That's the issue with so many current relationships, I believe. We consistently expect our significant other to cater to our each and every need- without even telling them what we need! There are expectations that are important when a couple is together, however these are the crucial things that you normally converse about-- such as how much money you need to spend on groceries, or that you dislike them going out every night.

You can turn on a faucet and assume water will follow, but remember that a relationship, of any sort, is not the same. Our boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives are not super heros, no matter how much you may think they are, and cannot always tell when you are in desperate need of a hug. Or, in my case, a chocolate bar.


These words are tough to write because I often struggle with communicating my feelings. It is ironic how I tend to hide emotions in my heart, and yet become angry when they are not heard. Halmark movies have given the majority of society a platform with the idea that "if he/she messes up, even just once, let them go."

I do not know about you, but this has to stop. Relationships are not the place to expect perfection; and they are most definitely not the place to hold untold expectations.

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