2016 has certainly been the year of celebrating your sexuality, with many people building the courage to "come out" as gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, etc., and receiving tons of support from loving individuals in the LGBTQ+ community. This was the year that the United States gave the right to all gay/lesbian couples to marry in all 50 states, (finally!). I think that this is a marvelous thing, to be proud of who you are, but more importantly to be comfortable with who you are.
However, it is saddening in a way to know that only now has it been accepted by society to openly be who you want to be, or rather, openly love those you love. Labels of sexuality sort of put you in a box, however sexuality is fluid! Sure you can be primarily attracted to men, but what if you find a female attractive too? All of a sudden you're thinking what category you fall under? Am I straight or gay or bisexual? What if I am none of the choices available?
The beautiful thing about sexuality is that there is not always going to be a specific answer. And it is perfectly okay to not feel 100% straight or 100% gay. I think human beings are attracted to other things besides looks and reproductive organs. It is not just a set of criteria that we fall in love with; we fall in love with passions, talents, behaviors, and desires; things that make humans...human!
I have always been driven to men sexually, but I never ruled out females completely. I never really thought much about it, if I was bisexual, but I think at a young age I understood that it did not really matter. If I am lucky enough to fall in love with someone, I will not be concerned with their gender. If I meet a really awesome girl and I have feelings for her, I won't ignore those feelings just because society tells me a woman should be looking for her husband.
Sexuality and gender is not something that is set in stone. Our feelings change day to day, and so can our preferences. Therefore bisexuality (or any other sexuality) is valid and important.
So if you are someone who has been struggling with their sexuality, don't stress about it. You do not have to place yourself under a label. You are not just a term. Your sexuality does not define who you are. Just surround yourself with those who you enjoy being in the company of. You might find a guy you love. You might find a girl you love. What should be of significance is the love factor. Finding someone you love. Isn't that what we all want in the end?
I mean, I'm probably bisexual or whatever, but the term does not mean much to me. I like guys and maybe girls too, who knows, but I think that is okay, and I am slowly learning to accept it. And if you are going through this bump in the road, just know that it is okay for you too. You will figure out what and who you like as it comes along to you. Be patient. There is a lot of love to be found out there in this world, you just have to remember to keep your heart open, always.
