Being Liked By Everyone Is Just A Dream

Just A Head's Up— Not Everyone Is going To Like You, And That's OK

Learn to ignore the haters.

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We've all struggled through this at least once in our lives whether it was our classmate, co-worker, someone in our friend circle, or even that one girl who hated us in kindergarten, yeah she counts. A lot of us struggled with that feeling of dislike, that negative energy you can just feel oozing off of them coming straight at you. It's a horrible feeling and at the same time, you keep pushing this person in hopes for them to like you.

Well, guess what? Not everyone you meet in this life is going to like you. Whoa, I know right? What is there not to like? I'm a solid human being who loves to laugh. One of the fastest talking machines you'll ever meet. I'm supportive and I buy the best gifts. Overall I think I am a decent human being and still, not everyone likes me. I swear I'm not conceded but when it comes to friends and family, I genuinely want the best for them and I treat them with the respect they deserve.

Since moving to Los Angeles, I had to find new friends. I made a few rock solid ones over the past couple months and to my surprise, some treat me less and less like a friend.

Of course, I was a little distraught, angry, sad and confused. I wondered what happened within the duration of our friendship, that made them start treating me differently. Like all humans, I know I'm flawed and at the end of the day, I didn't really want to hear someone telling what they dislike about me.

I've struggled with the fact that my friends were the ones slowly disliking me more and more. It was easily observed in the way they spoke and acted towards me. I struggled with this for many years and I'm still struggling with how to cope with it. It hurts more when it's someone you know, especially when it's someone you like having around.

How is this type of mistreatment any different from bullying? If you don't like someone, don't talk to them. Simple as that. People, we're in college, we're semi-adults! We know how to express our feelings, and we've learned the rules of society. My mother used to say if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. This is a mantra we should all carry.

Being confident in who I am really helped me ignore negative people in my life. Learning to love myself, allowed me to understand that I needed to cut fake friends out of myself. I know you're probably thinking, "Wow C.C. you're a fake friend, you didn't try to mend your friendships?" First off, yes I did. Secondly, why would I put myself in a situation that made me feel unwanted, unworthy, and sad? I believe in that asking others to respect you, you also have to respect their wishes.

I know it's hard, the feeling of knowing someone hates you leaves a heavyweight in your chest and stomach in an indescribable way. You want to prove yourself worthy of their friendship. This is not a feel-good movie with a happy ending, this is real life. Pushing others will only make the situation worse. Rather than focusing on making other people like you, focus on those who already do! They're the ones that need reciprocated love and support from you.

Disliking someone is not a crime and I'm not saying to open yourself to anyone and everyone but rather remember all of us are human beings with feelings. Your actions can be hurtful and even harmful. Just be considerate of other human beings and remember everyone is going through something. There's really no need to be mean, in an already cruel world.

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9 Reasons You're Still In Love With Tim Riggins In 2019

Clear eyes. Full hearts.
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If you're a Friday Night Lights fan, you know very well who Tim Riggins is. And if you've never seen the show, he's basically just the bad boy football star and sensitive hottie of your dreams, all wrapped into one heart-throbbing package. If you haven't already fallen under the Tim Riggins spell, you're about to...


1. He's the star running back of the Dillon Panthers.

Basically every girl who has walked this earth has fantasized about having that cliche football relationship. No shame. #33 on the field, #1 in my heart.

2. He's actually really sensitive.

Tim Riggins may seem hard and dysfunctional on the outside, but he's really just a big softie. He's no JD McCoy, who grew up lavishly and extremely fortunate; Tim had a rough upbringing. He and his brother, Billy, had to work hard all by themselves just to stay above water, which is most likely what keeps him so grounded and humbled.

3. He loves kids.

Tim didn't even think twice about taking his neighbor under his wing when he moved in next door. And for some reason, there's just somethin' about cute boys holding babies that makes us girls swoon.

4. He's genuine and honest.

Sure, maybe he took advantage of his football-star status and slept with most of the rally girls, but once he fell in love with Lyla we saw his compassionate side. (You probably envied Lyla and maybe even hated her for a while because of it...I know I did.)

5. He knows how to have a good time.

It's 5 o'clock somewhere.

6. He's a family man.

Tim took the blame for his brother's crime and went to prison for it...if that's not loyalty then I don't know what is.

7. He's affectionate.

If you either hate Lyla or you want to be Lyla or a combination of the both, you are not alone.

8. He's protective.

Probably the only time you've ever wanted to be in a tornado was when you watched the episode where he shielded Julie from flying debris.

9. He's beautiful.

You're welcome for blessing you with this GIF.

May you all find your own Tim Riggins. Amen.

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Poetry On The Odyssey: It's a Girl

An ode to the little girl raised to be insecure.

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They raise little girls to be insecure

Little girls grow to be big girls

People always ask big girls why they're so insecure

Big girls aren't quite sure

Day after day the big girl can't keep up

She's exhausted

Her soul feels worn

The big girl learns to grow hard

In a way, she's a bit stronger

People call her a bitch

Bitch

What is that?

How can she let that affect her

It's simply the only way to be her

She mourns that little girl

Hoping that one day

She'll be strong


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