I like to consider myself a real “people person.” You know, one of those “life of the party” type of people. Big hearted, patient, anything I can do to help type of person. I get so much energy from just being in the same general area as others. I enjoy really interactive activities and even the weird down time where you aren’t doing anything but you don’t mind because you’re not alone. I would rather listen than talk or sit and be there for you instead of lending out advice. I value every moment spent with others. I even told my boss “I don’t really know what my purpose or my passion is, I just know that I love people. I could have nothing at all but if there were other people around, I’d be fine." And I believe that with my whole heart.
What I sometimes forget is that everyone else might not love people the way I do. Some people see the world much different. There are people who believe in money, power and the things ahead, ignoring what’s all around them. They don’t recognize the worth of others. The time I spend trying to get to know the people around me, is time those particular people are using to find ways to use and abuse others. They are the do whatever it takes to get what I want type of people. Sometimes they’re just insensitive and unaware of how they affect the people around them. Let’s face it, we’ve all bumped into one or two of these souls in our lives.
So what happens when a people person gets hurt? When the very thing that keeps them going and drives them to be who they are, becomes discouraging.
I’ll tell you what happens from first-hand experience.
At first I become upset and confused. It may seem as though I’m out of it, I’m not as engaged. From the inside looking out, there isn’t anywhere that I can place the blame on those around me. In my eyes, I’m just thinking too much into the situation or maybe I didn’t completely understand what was happening. As I attempt to sort out the details and reasons why I ended up hurt again, I tend to beat myself up about the situation, it’s easy to do when you value people so much you forget that you have feelings too.
Suddenly I just lose faith in people. I begin to look at people differently, instead of the flawsome beauties that I long to figure out. They become nuisances, they mean no good and only cause me harm. I stay in my little corner, avoiding people for as long as my true friends will let me. In that time to myself I try to figure out the real issue at hand. I realize that once again I’ve spent so much time focused on others that I forgot about myself.
Who’s listening to Kira? Who’s looking out for and worrying about Kira? Who’s happy just being in the same room as Kira? How does any of my constant companionship and effort to give all that I can for others help or benefit Kira? My people (They know who they are), they step in at this point to remind me that not everyone is on Team Kira like they are. Quality over quantity always. The reason they love me is because there isn’t a person out there that doesn’t have a Kira on their team. They would tell me to snap out of it because I’m bigger than hurt feelings, people aren’t worth me moping around and no one can use me unless I let them.
A real people person will put themselves out there time and time again. They do this because they are good at what they do. Whether it is romantic or platonic, they have a way with others. They are empathetic, selfless, and helpers. At the end of the day, everyone can’t be a people person and sometimes we end up hurt.
They say hurt people, hurt people. You know what this hurt girl is going to do? Find her people and love on them until they have no choice but to love her back even harder!
