I know that I can be a little old-fashioned but there are some things that never go out of style. As we are making the transition into the real world, people actually expect us to act like adults and there are a couple things you should know to help you fake maturity. Some of these lessons will not only impress your significant other's parents but they might even help you land that big kid job after graduation. Most of these things my family taught me. If you were not so lucky, I am here as your guardian angel.
You're welcome.
1. Always write thank you notes.
After a job interview, a lunch with your significant other's parents or after receiving a gift are great times to send a thank you note. Make sure it is hand written--it adds that extra touch that shows you care. In the note, mention something specific about your conversation or about a gift that meant a lot to you. Referencing the conversation reminds them about you and will make them remember you for a long time to come.
2. Bring a token gift to every big event.
Bring the host or hostess wine, flowers or some kind of gift. Showing that you appreciate being invited to the event will get you invited to the next event as well.
3. Have a strong handshake.
Don't break anybody's hand but don't give them a little-girl-handshake. The handshake is a first impression, and they last a lifetime.
4. Refrain from dropping the F-Bomb.
Dropping the F-Bomb while hanging with your frat buddies is one thing...being around a future employer or people you want to impress is another. There are so many words in the English language that you could use instead of curse words.
5. Make eye contact.
You are old enough now to look at people in the face--do it. Not only does it catch their eye, but it makes them feel important. It also shows that you are confident in what you are saying and doing, which makes the person you are with feel more confident in you as well.
6. Have nice table manners.
My family is English so we are a little old-fashioned, but there are certain things you just do not do. The big thing my mum always yelled at us about as children was putting our elbows on the table. Always rest your hands in your lap instead of resting them on the table. Secondly, do not wave your silverware around--keep them either on your plate or in your mouth--nothing in between.
7. Try to dress well.
You aren't a frat star anymore so it is time to ditch the snap-backs and high socks. Consider looking into some newer clothes. You do not have to go out and buy a new wardrobe as soon as you graduate but slowly incorporate new pieces that will last you a lifetime. A nice suit, dress shirts, non-ripped jeans, a nice pair of shoes will last you forever and never go out of style. This includes dressing appropriately for the occasion. Learn what to wear for different events and remember what cocktail hour, business casual, semi-formal, and black tie mean.
Great manners show that you were brought up well. They even give you an air of sophistication and intelligence and who does not want that? No one wants you to be perfect but remembering these little things will help you leave a lasting impression on those around you.
Good luck, kiddos!
