Sometimes, I sit down and ask myself why people are so against a woman being open and free with her sexuality. Sometimes, I stand up and think about it. Either way, it's often on my mind. If a man can have a lot of sex and be some kind of hero to his bros, then why does a woman get shamed for being sexually active, even from people who are so close to her?

Obviously, we pretty much already have all the answers to this question. Ever heard of something called patriarchy? How about misogyny? Sexism? Internalization? Well, to save you a Google search, it basically comes down to a society being built based on the wants and desires of men, even when it places themselves at a disadvantage. Essentially, being a hoe is only a bad thing because it means men don't get to dictate the standards, values and behaviors of a woman. Except, being a hoe isn't bad at all. It's actually perfectly healthy.

"Bros before hoes?" So that means I can say "Ovaries before brovaries?" Sounds stupid, doesn't it? That my, dear friend, is what is referred to as a double standard. This double standard consists of men being praised for having sex with multiple women, while if a woman has sex with multiple men, she's the world's biggest hoe, slut, whore -- the list could go on.

I love sex; love talking about it, love learning about it, love having it. There is no shame in that, nor should there be. Why should I be targeted for enjoying sex while men are being praised for it? Newsflash, honey, none of us would be here without the handy-dandy vagina. So, why shame it? At the end of the day, if I'm not physically having sex with you, don't worry about me; just know my needs are being satisfied by someone who isn't you.

One of the more upsetting things about slut-shaming is when women do it to one another. After learning that this is how we are supposed to react, though, it is not hard to understand why we do it. Only with education through a feminist lens will we be able to see that a woman -- any person for that matter -- is really the only one who should care about what (or who) they do.

Practicing safe and consensual sex is the sole criteria for having it and only when those things aren't being valued should others have something to say. A woman's sexuality is valid and we shouldn't take that away from her by dehumanizing her experiences by calling her a hoe, slut, whore, etc. She should be free from judgement from everyone.

I'm pro-hoe because she's out there living for her, and is blatantly ignoring the rigid role society set for her. As a feminist, you often hear of respectability politics as a topic of interest, but it's also kind of outdated. Women were once restricted to only being seen, but never heard, and now we are louder than ever. Going against respectability politics creates a rebellious outlook on societal standards and really makes women want to reconsider their acceptance of those antiquated rules, while reclaiming derogatory words like "hoe." There's really nothing more badass than that.

With figures like Amber Rose, Amy Schumer and many others a woman's sexuality is finally being brought to light. We will use our voices to make it known that we will not tolerate being harassed for enjoying a connection with another person. We will not tolerate slut-shaming, nor will we degrade and dehumanize our fellow human beings for enjoying something that might make them feel empowered, amazing, sexy, or all of the above.

We will stand together to bring this double standard to an end. We will stand together and educate each other on what it means to have safe and consensual sex. Women will, one day, no longer feel the need to hide their sexual identities and experiences. Until then, we'll just leave this here:

And more power to ya!!