People pleasers, we are a category of people that make the slacker's life easier. We are constantly saying yes, and we never know how to space ourselves out and give enough to everyone that wants a little help. Some people eventually figure out what type of person we are, and they slowly take advantage of us. We know we need to stop, but for some reason, the word NO isn't in our vocabulary. We all know the emotions we experience, and we all know what happens in the end: we always say YES.
1. Annoyance.
You hear the "Could you maybe..." or "Would you have time to..." or my personal favorite "Heeeeeeeeyyyyyy?" You think about all the other times this person has asked for your help or needed a favor, and you wonder if they actually do anything for themselves.
2. Contemplation.
You go through all the other things you would rather do like...nothing, but then you don't want to hurt their feelings. You want to just stop them in the middle of their sentence and walk away, but you let them finish. Then you hear what they ask you to do, and you know it is going to take all this work and gas and time and you know they'll never make up for it or help you when you need it. But...
3. Panic.
You already know you are going to say yes, but then you have to rearrange most of your schedule. They need help on Thursday afternoon; you have an exam at 8, a group meeting right after that, lunch with your mom, you're helping your friend's roommate move, then dinner with your boyfriend/girlfriend that night.
4. Defeat.
Then you realize if you push up lunch with your mom, only help with the moving for an hour, push back dinner by an hour and reschedule your group meeting for another day. Sadly, that would mean you have time to help them study for a test on a subject you know nothing about.
5. Acceptance.
You've thought it out and no matter how hard you want to not be a part of this disgusting habit of always saying "yes," you can't help yourself. You never want to let anyone down, and you always want to make other people's lives easier. Even though you are always busy and always doing things for others, that's a big reason why people think you are awesome. Being a "yes man" has its downfalls, but it always has its benefits and that's why we keep doing it.
