One of my biggest flaws if have an emotional reaction to everything. When I say everything, I literally mean everything. Everything that is said, everything that is done. I get emotional whenever someone’s tone toward me changes. I become anxious and run through everything that I did wrong in my head. I can’t help it, though. Most of the time my intuition is right on the money. The universe has hurt my heart so many times I can’t help but be paranoid.

Your intuition might very well be right, but you can’t let it affect you emotionally. You will suffer if you always have an emotional reaction to everything. That doesn’t mean you have to repress your emotions but learning to cope would help you in so many situations, especially if you’re a drama queen like myself. I tend to overanalyze every situation for no reason.

You’ve got to find that true power, and sometimes that’s just sitting back and observing. Observe with logic and restraint. It becomes so much easier to deal with things whenever you learn how to respond. The response is really everything. If words control you, everyone can control you. Learn to let it pass. You have a right to decency. What’s important is that you will learn from it. Sometimes it’s an unfair way to be taught, but it will be over. Whether people change or not is irrelevant.

Stop focusing on the hurt. You will continue to suffer. Focus on the lesson so you can continue to grow. Focus on what’s ahead and step forward. I have spent so much time turning my life to concentrating on the hurt that I couldn’t see the growth that was actually happening behind all of it. There is one saying that has always stuck with me: “First it hurts. Then it changes you.”