We have all experienced heartbreak. It is an unavoidable part of life. Whether it comes from not getting the new position you really wanted or rejection from someone you really liked.
And for most of us, it's hard to be vulnerable. A lot of people, myself included, have a hard time admitting when we are struggling, even to those closest to us. We feel the need to put up our walls and pretend we're not affected by something, even when we are. I'm here to tell you why it's okay to be heartbroken, and why you should actually embrace it.
It happens to everybody. Being heartbroken is nothing to be ashamed of. Not one person will live their entire life without something going wrong. Not everyone will want to date you, and you won't get selected for every job you apply for. Nobody should judge you for being sad about a breakup, because sooner or later it's going to happen to them (if it hasn't already).
By ignoring your emotions, you are just making it harder for yourself later on. At some point, whether it's immediately or a month later, you are going to have to deal with your emotions. You can try to push them away, but you will only be delaying the inevitable. Suppressing it only makes it harder to deal with later on.
It makes you grow. By experiencing heartbreak, you find out what you want in your life. Sometimes, you find out what you want in a relationship or what is a deal breaker for you. Sometimes, you find out who your true friends are. You get to know yourself better. By going through a rough patch, you're becoming a stronger person. No matter what the situation is, you're going to be better equipped to deal with your next rough patch.
Next time you're feeling this way, remember this - it's okay to be vulnerable. It's okay to cry. It's okay to lean on your friends and family when you need them. You don't have to go through everything alone, and you shouldn't. Embrace what you are feeling because you will come out stronger on the other side.
