Embrace Being Independent, You're Living Right

Embrace Being Independent, You're Living Right

Being dependent is so last season.
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To all the people out there who are independent, like Holly Golightly from Breakfast at Tiffany's, embrace it. Why embrace it? Independence is a great quality to have. The universe isn't going to give you what you want, and nobody can put you up on a pedestal. Being independent shows that you are your own person and that you can survive and thrive without the constant need of others.

In this day and age, people seem to be very dependent on others. It can be rare to find a person who is confident enough in their own abilities to be able to carry out tasks on their own. These people are the role models, the ones who take the initiative, and they know what they want in life. They don't need the opinions of others.

Being independent can cause some misconceptions. Like if a woman is independent and has a strong work ethic, she may be labeled "bossy" or a "diva". A man that is the exact same way is praised for how he is. This is frustrating because no matter what your gender, you should be treated with utmost respect and integrity. Being independent can cause people to believe that you are arrogant, selfish, and don't want others' help. You can be independent while being humble, compassionate, and accepting of others' help.

Keep doing you my friends, because you are living your life how you should be: on your own terms. Never let anyone, including yourself, hold you back from doing what you want. But, never be afraid to ask for assistance in achieving your goals because you never know when you may need it. There's something empowering about being your own person.

To me, individuality is valuable. Not every person is the same, so everyone is one-of-a-kind. I'm not implying the "special snowflake" theory where everyone deserves a prize, but the beauty of this life is that you can create it however you want. Life molds to you and nobody else's decisions change your life but yours.

I have been independent for as long as I can remember. I started walking at 10 months old, and I would clean up the toys at preschool without assistance. In high school, I would try with all my might to accomplish assignments on my own. Even into my first semester of college, I was reluctant to go to office hours for help. Then I realized that it's okay to go to people who can aid you in becoming better, and that you aren't sacrificing your independence.

Going back to the beginning using Holly Golightly as an example of independence, I love how strong she is. To others, she may seem like a ditz, but she goes after what she wants. She is perfectly content with just being by herself and her cat in her apartment. What I love the most about her is that she even though she viewed love as being a cage, she was able to let Paul Varjak in. She carried so much class and grace, and always put herself first.

With that being said, sometimes you might have to swallow your pride and become somewhat dependent. That doesn't mean that you're completely relying on someone else. You are still the wonderful, powerful being that you are. I will admit that with independence sometimes comes stubbornness. My best advice is to not let the stubbornness surpass your independence because it can affect your life negatively.

Embrace being independent, and for those who want to be independent, it's never too late to start!

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!

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What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

Price: $8.49 (one pack), $14.99 (two pack)

2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

Price: $10.98

3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

Price: $1.95

4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

Price: $12.00

6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

Price: $9.99

7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

Price: $16.99

8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

Price: $6.50

9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

Price: $38.76-$41.11

10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

Price: $21.85

11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

Price: $79.99

12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

Price: $7.99

13. Frat House Dr. Sign

Price: $13.99

Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

Price: $17.19

Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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The Universal New Year's Resolutions

Live more.

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This is a short piece I wrote for my creative writing class over Thanksgiving break, and while looking it over, I discovered how much personal truth it held and how anyone can apply these goals to their own life. Instead of declaring that you'll start going to the gym or stop smoking, it's easier to break down your goals into smaller steps, and I hope you can find something that resonates with you in this writing.

Live more.

Consume more. Travel as much as you can. Read as many books as you can get your hands on. Watch as many shows and films become available to you. Consume art to learn more about the world.

Breathe more. Flush those worries out. Don't let deadlines pile up. Don't let the stress and fear prevent you from living.

Cook more. Don't rely on take-out. Stir up new things, and try new recipes. You might find something you adore.

Learn more. Take the classes you don't think you'll like, and let them open your mind to new experiences.

Speak more. Reach out to friends and family first. Make the effort to include them in your life. Don't brush them off for temporary things.

Practice more. Work on that hobby. Familiarize yourself with your second language. Don't be satisfied with the bare minimum.

Study more. Don't let procrastination become your closest friend. Don't let academics fall behind. You're putting too much on the line to let it all go to waste.

Imagine more. Don't let rationality keep you stuck to earth. Let your fleeting dreams and thoughts exist, and work until they become reality.

Socialize more. Don't let yourself remain trapped in the familiar. Put yourself out there. Meet new people. Have new experiences.

Love more. Don't let fear of rejection or betrayal stifle your affection. Your heart can bear it.

Feel more.

Do more.

Live more.

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