Okay, I am totally obsessed with Perks of Being a Wallflower and know almost every single line in the movie. (I promise this is going somewhere.) In the movie, Patrick complains about how his step-sister makes herself small for guys. She acts dumber and easier because she knows it will work to get some bone-headed guy. As a college student, I see this nonsense all the time. Girls stand, twirl their hair, and act like absolutely nothing is going on upstairs. The guy takes her home because he thinks she’s an easy airhead and so on and so forth.
Let me just say one thing: Ladies, you are smart. You are powerful. You don’t need to act dumb. You don’t need to act so easy. Because the guys that prey on you and take advantage of that are trash.
From the beginning of our childhood, women were taught that if boys make fun of us, they like us. We took and took the insults and abuse but reassured ourselves by saying it means they like us. I feel as if over time, we did the work for them and reduced ourselves down to boobs and a hole for them to slide into. I know it sounds harsh, but it’s true.
I’ve done it, so don’t think I am preaching at you. I’ve been to a party where there are tons of hot guys and girls way hotter than me. I tell myself I can’t compete with their looks so I just act easy and desperate and pray some guy will hopefully like it. After pulling my shirt down further than it needs to go, I’ll move on to acting like I know nothing, and I am just there to get action.
After a semester of playing the dumb prey, I finally realized I am actually smart, independent, and want guys to treat me as such. If they didn’t want me for whatever reason, then so be it. And if they were going to throw stones because I didn’t give them what they want, then so be it. The bottom line of all this rambling is, “Women of earth, please stop making yourself small for temporary attention from some stupid guy who doesn’t have the maturity to appreciate a smart, hard-working woman.”
But do not fret, we all have blonde moments. I’ve had days where I have wondered a parking lot for half an hour looking for my car that is front row. And liking sex doesn’t make you easy. It means you like sex. Just don’t sacrifice personal values to get it in. Not cool. Don’t go around a party asking 20th century art questions about the movement of modernity and whatnot to show how intelligent and cultured you are, just keep your head held high. Think like Elle Woods. Show them you have Harvard-level intelligence while being adorable.
Also, please don’t act like you love sports if you really don’t. Trust me, that subject is a black hole. You say you like sports and they ask you your opinion of every Hall of Fame player out there, dead or alive.
