When it comes to friendships there's no written step by step process you can follo, it's all trial and error. But, you deserve the best. Don't accept anything less.
We come to the road of creating new friendships all of the time. Our first day of college, our first day at work, when we join an athletic team. I'm no expert on everything friendships, but I've had my fair share of ones that do nothing but hurt me mentally and I've also had those that always make me feel better. They all have their ups and downs, not every friendship is perfect.
But, don't waste your time on a friendship where you're the only one putting in the effort. Friendships are a two-way road not a one-way street. Both people put in effort to get to know each other, hang out, or chat. But if you're constantly trying to talk to them and hang out but get nothing in return, it's not worth it.
Don't waste your time on a toxic friendship. I've been a part of these before. Those friendships where all they do is belittle you or make you feel bad about yourself. End them. Trust me, it took me years to leave the friendship but once I did it feel so good. I could finally surround myself completely with people who wanted the best for me instead of constantly being worried about what part of myself would be judged the next time I saw them.
Do waste your time on a friendship where you both want the other to succeed. If you have a friend that doesn't want the best for you and only brings you down when you're climbing it isn't worth it. Even if you don't believe it, you deserve to have friends who are picking you up when you fall.
Do waste your time on a friendship that you know will always be there through thick and thin. I'm not oblivious to the fact that friendships aren't always perfect. Me and my best friend have arguments sometimes, but what matters is that in the end, we want whats best for each other. What matters is that we move on from them and help them strengthen our relationships and I know she'll always be there for me and I can depend on her.
Friendships aren't always rainbows and sunshine. Everyone fights sometimes just like everyone has those moments where they're crying because they're laughing so hard. Find those. They can be someone you've known your whole life, or they could be someone you won't meet until your 30.
Even if it's a few years from now, when you find those lifetime friendships you'll know and make sure to never let them go, because even if you don't think so, you deserve them.
