Recently, the show Bachelor in Paradise wrapped up its summer season. It ended with three proposals and millions of happy "bachelor nation" fans around the country. We watched as three couples fell in love and we felt a part of it. I've been a Bachelor/Bachelorette fan for many years now, but after watching this season of Bachelor in Paradise I realized that the love they have is not what I want. The love they have, while it seems genuine and passionate, is not the kind of love I want to have with my husband. I want a love rooted in Jesus Christ where my husband and I pray together. I'm not saying that the love of these people on the show isn't rooted in Christ's love and I have seen it before, but from watching the show, that impression was not given.

Ephesians 3:17-18 says "So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ." I want a love that is rooted deep in the Father's love. I want to pray with my husband and grow closer to the Lord and scripture with each other. I want a love that is like the Father's love, unconditional, unlimited, and complete. I want my husband to love me like my Heavenly Father Loves me and I want us to pray together and face good an bad challenges whatever they might be. I want to raise my children where they know about the Father's love and that their parents are deeply rooted together through that love.

Watching Bachelor in Paradise, I didn't get a sense of their love for one another through The Father. I got a sense of their love by how many times they said "I love you" and the time they spend together laying on the beach. I got a sense of their love through the time span they spent together. But I didn't see their love through their prayer together. I didn't see their love through their Christ-like actions. I didn't see their love through how they faced obstacles that came their way. A love like that is not a love I want. I want a Christ-centered love and I will keep searching until I find that.