Nowadays in any kind of relationship, there's this competition of who can care less. We’ve been conditioned to suppress most of our emotions. People are seen as psychos if they have standards. We don’t talk about things that bother us; better yet we don’t talk about things that matter. We kind of just take and take and take.

What happened to being real? This generation is going to turn into a huge broken promise if we can’t quit the mind games. We shouldn’t be so afraid to share our emotions with the people we let into our lives. If we cant, then we should question why they’re even there in the first place.

The easiest thing in the world is to be what you are, feel what you feel. The hardest is living up to all of the things other people want you to be. We succumb so easily to other people’s expectations.

Too often we find things wrong with others and favor hate over love. We flirt with peoples' fortes and dodge their insecurities. Some friendships are only visible when there’s a smile on your face. What happened to being there for people? What happened to wanting to truly help people better themselves?

When was the last time someone actually tried to wholly accept you for everything that you are? Not deal with you, but accept you. We fall in love with the perfect parts of each other. It’s so easy to. We love when people can live up to our wants, needs, and expectations. We live for the good moments with them, not bad ones, right?

But what happens when someone makes a mistake? Why don’t we love them just as equally when they both directly and indirectly share their flaws with us? Do we look at their flaws and say I still love you, I want to work with you on this and help you? Not usually. We can sugarcoat any relationship, but the good things will always be there. It’s the bad things that will keep popping up, and the solution shouldn't be to just drop that person.

It’s up to us to let go of our egos and work together instead of against each other. People give up on each other now more than ever. They don’t want to deal with the bull and take the easy way out. I say if you truly love someone, you shouldn’t give up just because their flaws differ from yours.

I came across a quote that I felt really embodies this idea. It goes: "If somebody treats you with unkindness, it’s likely they have endured similar treatment in the past from others, and are only repeating unconscious patterns in search of a love they cannot find. They will continue to repeat until they wake up from their nightmare of projection, and truly see who you are, who they are, who we all are. An excuse? No. A way to begin to find compassion for them, to stop taking their behavior so personally and so seriously, to begin to break the cycle of violence? Perhaps. And that ‘perhaps’ is everything when it comes to loving each other." -Jeff Foster

If being cool means being ignorant, then I don’t want to be cool. This quote epitomizes the issue in any relationship: differences. When someone is treated a certain way for so long, whether it’s by example or by force, it gets to a point that it’s all they know. Don’t punish them for being broken; help them pick themselves back up. We are powerful enough to break the cycle of hurt. We just have to dig deep into each other and work it out.