Here's the thing: you're pretty damn amazing by just being you.
All the little things that make you who you are--your hobbies, your quirks, your habits, your style, literally everything about you--it makes you shine.
So don't try and shy away from the spotlight for any guy who can't even begin to see everything that's in front of him.
You're here to be the best person you can be, not to cheer on someone from the sidelines. You're here to make your own success and celebrate your own accomplishments.
A guy shouldn't love you because you can cook, clean, always look beautiful and want to be a stay at home mom. He shouldn't love you just because you're his personal cheerleader.
He should love you because you have your own dreams. You created your own agenda. Because you aren't afraid of being whoever the hell you want to be.
I know that the day I find myself married I would never even begin to consider tossing my dreams into the backseat for some dumb label.
This whole concept of wanting to be 'wifey material' honestly mystifies me. Firstly, you don't have to fit this stereotype in order to be a good wife. If you do happen to, it should be because you find it fulfilling for yourself, not because that's what your husband wants. Secondly, why the hell would you want to change who you are to please someone else? You should be with some who appreciates you for who you, not someone who thinks you need to modify yourself in order to fit their list of requirements.
I don't have to be wifey material in order to be a good wife. There's nothing wrong with being proud of your husband's accomplishments and wanting the world to know. But what your husband does shouldn't be what defines you. A marriage is inclusive of two people. Two halves that make a whole. Two people both offering equal parts. Yes, part of marriage is making sure your significant other is always happy and supporting them through good and bad. But you can still do that and maintain individuality and mutual respect for each other's wishes and accomplishments.
I don't have to be wifey material to be a good mother. Being a housewife doesn't automatically make me a better mom. But chasing my dreams? Showing my kids that I took control of my life and did whatever the hell I wanted to achieve happiness? That makes me a strong and inspiring mother.
Any action we take should be based on our own desires, if you want to be a CEO, be a CEO because that's what you want. If you want to be a housewife, be a housewife because that's what you want. Make your own choice.
Your decisions should be based on your goals, not on some guy's need for the “perfect wife". No guy can define and dictate what a perfect wife is.
So be you, in the most honest form possible, because if a guy can't appreciate that he sure as hell doesn't deserve you.
