You Don't Get To Decide How People React To What You Do

You Don't Get To Decide How People React To What You Do

Emotions don't have rules, so stop telling people how they can and cannot feel.


This seems so self-explanatory, but clearly, it isn't. I've seen a lot of posts lately about how Millennials and Gen-Y are too sensitive and how we can't take a joke. Well, guess what? YOU DON'T GET TO DECIDE HOW I REACT.

If I see something on Facebook that's sexist, even if it's a joke, I am allowed to be offended. I am allowed to defend my gender and defend myself. I am allowed to be angered at the constant oppression of women that is often masked by jokes and backhanded compliments and side comments. You do not get to tell me "oh, it's just a joke, relax." I will not relax. It is my responsibility to stand up for myself and other women. The intention of the comment is irrelevant, it's about what the message of it is and I am allowed to feel however I feel.

You also don't get to tell me how your actions affect me. If you are my friend and you take seven hours to respond to a text message that warrants a response, but I see that you've been posting on social media, I am allowed to be mad. I am allowed to be irritated. The same is true if you blow me off, even if it's for legitimate reasons. I am allowed to be upset. It may not be directed at you, but I am still allowed to be upset that you canceled on me.

Also, if you're my significant other and you say or do something that hurts my feelings or disappoints me, I am allowed to feel that way. If I go out of my way when you have had a bad day to make you feel better, but you ignore that- I am allowed to be upset.

I am allowed to be disappointed and to need some space. You don't get to tell me that I'm overreacting or that I'm being crazy just having emotions.

I am also allowed to feel emotions that aren't necessarily traditional in certain scenarios. I am allowed to be relieved when someone who's had cancer and been in pain for years on end, passes away. I am allowed to be happy that they are no longer suffering. I am also allowed to feel grief that they are gone. I am allowed to feel whatever I feel.

So, stop telling me and others to feel a certain way. I am allowed to have emotion. It is NORMAL to have emotions. It is NORMAL to feel things. I am allowed to feel whatever I feel.

Emotions do not have boundaries. Emotions don't have rules. So, stop trying to give people emotional rules to follow.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Stay Close To Your Study Abroad Friends, You Guys Conquered The World Together

And probably slept on an overnight train very uncomfortably.


Apparently, it's true what they say: "If you travel with someone, you can do anything else with that person easily."

Over the last 10 days, I learned so much, but one of the biggest lessons that I learned was that if you can travel with people who are basically strangers and leave the trip with them being some of your closest friends, you really can do anything. I say the word "basically" strangers because we did have a class together before this trip that met once a week on Friday mornings. However, sitting in class with people and listening to them present is definitely not the same as developing close and personal relationships with them. Three days before the trip happened, we didn't know each other's names- which is crazy to me looking back on it!

With this group of ladies (and a few gents), we saw the world together. Well, we saw the airport in Frankfurt, Germany, Poland, and the Czech Republic- so not the entire world. The first "bonding" activity was the joy of experiencing 9 hours on a plane together. It was pretty awkward in some cases where you looked at the person you were sitting next to and realized that you had 9 hours to bond. Me? I got placed sitting next to my professor and her son- which was an entirely new experience.

The second "bonding" activity included us missing our flight from Frankfurt to Poland. We ran like banshees through the Frankfurt airport to our terminal only to be told that we couldn't get on the plane. If it wasn't for that experience, I'm not sure that we would have bonded in the way that we did. Shared (kind of bad) experiences truly do bring people together. On the plus side, we had more time to discover what food Frankfurt really had to offer. You can imagine my sheer delight when we came across a pastry shop!

We also took lots of walking tours. I'm not talking about a half hour of sightseeing, I'm referring to going from 9 am- 3 pm on your feet exploring the city with a tour guide. Now, it was super cool to see all of the sights. However, through all of this walking, we were able to talk and also bond in the feet aches, hunger, and slight sickness that was floating around our group for the entirety of the trip.

Now, the most exciting/ stressful part of the trip came when we were going from Poland to Prague on an overnight train. I thought it would resemble something similar to the Night Bus from Harry Potter... I was wrong. Very wrong. Included in the *tiny* car were six beds, with three stacked on top of one another. We somehow managed to fit 5 people and 5 very large suitcases inside of this train car, but with everyone being motion sick- it was a long night. I'm grateful for this night train because we all got extremely close to one another that night, seeing everyone in an uncomfortable situation.

We also conquered things like the train system, finding our way around, and the currency. When going out to eat, the server always put everything onto one check and left us to figure out the math. I don't think I've ever done that much math and converting in my head in my life. It was a struggle, but we got it down. There were language barriers too, where we had to adapt to only saying very simple phrases for those who hardly spoke English.

Did we conquer the entire world? Maybe not. But we did figure out 3 new countries and how to navigate life in them. The United States is a piece of cake.

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