I don't owe you anything.
I don't owe you anything even though we've been talking. You know, getting to know each other. Texting every day. Coordinating a casual run in at a tailgate or a night out. Yes, we've been flirting. Yes, it's fun to talk to you, to laugh with you. But you taking the time to get to know me does not correlate when it will be the time for me to give a part of myself to you. I would hope that you would be spending time with me to learn about my quirks, my favorite stories, and my goals; not to see how long you have to put up with me before I undress for you.
I don't owe you anything even though you took me on a date. The bowl of pasta and side salad you bought are not an automatic ticket to a personal part of me. Just because you paid the price that was printed at the bottom of the bill does not mean that I must pay the price of surrendering my body to you as a form of thanks. Despite what you may have heard, not all women "put out" after a date to say thank you. I am worth more than the dollar amount spent that evening and should not be lowered to a simple $28.62.
I don't owe you anything because I kissed you. It was a kiss. That's all, and if it was more, that still doesn't mean that I am required to go any farther with you. You may call me a tease. You may tell me I'm not worth it. Fine, but I should not be belittled because of what I choose to do with my body.
When did boys stop getting to know a person for the fun and excitement of it and start expecting a girl to get undressed for them as soon as a little bit of time and money was spent. I used to apologize my values, for my decisions, but I'm done. Never once should I, or any other girl, feel as though our choices are an inconvenience. What I do or don't want to do is my business, and the final decision comes down to me, not to whether or not the price of a meal was expensive.
I am so tired of girls feeling as though saying no isn't an acceptable answer. Of course it is. It's your body. It's your feelings. And both you and I don't owe him anything.