Every relationship is going to have those moments where you find yourself wondering why?
Why do I find the need to be with this person? Why am I in this relationship? Is it worth it?
Recently, I found myself in this very situation, and it made me realize something: I don't need him. I could be perfectly happy on my own. I'd have more time to do whatever I want. I wouldn't need to worry about anybody else but myself. I would be a perfectly content, independent woman...
And there's nothing wrong with that.
Nobody should be dependent on another for happiness or anything else in life. I create my own happiness. I make my own decisions. I worry about whatever I choose to worry about. Being in a relationship doesn't change any of that. So many women think that in order for a relationship to work, they must feel like life would be miserable without their significant other or that they need their significant other, but the opposite is true. If you feel that way, there are bigger issues that need to be addressed. I'm not saying ditch him and run, but maybe you need to take a step back and look at yourself.
All that being said, my significant other and I are happily together still after three years. Three years of minor bickering, independent projects, and lots of time apart doing our own things thanks to college. The whole time I was content with our situation. There is nothing wrong with pursuing what you want, and I wanted to finish college. He respected that, and that is what makes this whole thing work, but when I needed him, he was always right there.
That same respect he has for me is the same I have for him. In all his pursuits, I have been there to support him, and I never make him feel sorry for doing so. I don't want him to feel like his happiness is dependent on me. I don't want him to need to be with me; I want him to want to be with me. The difference is small, but so important in our relationship. It's similar to the the reason I believe God gave us free will. He gave us free will so we can choose to come to him and not because we have to. I'm not saying our love is perfect like His, but it acts as a great example.
