As someone who tends to be quiet around people I don't know well and somewhat submissive, I tended to go with the flow a lot growing up. Whenever someone told me what I should do and what I would be great at I just listened and went along with it. What else was I supposed to do? Disagree?

Oh no that wasn't in my vocabulary when it came to people I didn't know. It's normal to have some people pressuring you to be a certain way, and this isn't always a bad thing, but there are limits.

I let people tell me who I was, what I was going to be for my whole life. It's made me do things that didn't interest me and that I didn't want to do. Sometimes I ended up loving them and sometimes, I just failed. This is okay, but all of it has taught me a lot, including this.

It's taught me that I can't keep letting other people make choices for me, I have to make my own. I'm almost an adult now, "going with the flow" and just "waiting to see what will happen" is something I can't afford to do anymore.

So I encourage independent thinking and finding your own path before it gets to the point where you have no choice. But if you're like me it's okay too. It may be a little harder for us, but we'll all figure out what we were made to do eventually, just don't give up on yourself.