Being a caring person with a huge heart is both a blessing and a curse. You genuinely care about others so you obviously want to do anything you can to help them, even if it means helping them over yourself. Now I'm not saying to be selfish and not help people out, but you always have to remember to make yourself happy. If the people you are putting in time and effort for don't care about your happiness as well, then you have to put an end to it. You are in charge of your own happiness, and while others can play a huge role in your overall mood, at the end of the day it's your job to look in the mirror and be satisfied with yourself. So always make sure you are doing that.

I used to struggle with putting people before myself, always being afraid to say no in fear that they would be upset with me. But I realized that I can't keep living life that way, because I wasn't truly happy. I learned that I have to do things for myself sometimes and not care what other people think about it. You have to think to yourself with people and say "would they do the same for me?". And if the answer is no, then you should re evaluate everything you are doing for them on a daily basis. Because once I started thinking that way, I realized that half the people I was helping, wouldn't ever do the same if the tables were turned.

With that being said though, I'll always love helping people and making them happy regardless of what they have or haven't done for me. I guess what I'm saying in this blog is that you shouldn't continuously waste your time caring about someone and giving them everything, if they aren't giving anything in return. Relationships are a two way street, and regardless if it's a friendship or romanic relationship, you deserve to be treated and cared for equally.