“I often feel like I’m wanting what I can’t have.”
Sound familiar?
We’ve all hit those parts in our lives where we find ourselves longing for the things that seem way out of our reach. Or maybe, we’ve been in situations where we find ourselves getting closer to the things we want most, even though we can never really get a hold on what we want. Wanting what’s bad for us seems to be the typical norm and waiting around for that person we’re really into has become one of our worst habits. Why do we wait around for the people that are clearly not worth our time? It’s not that we want to get hurt and go through multiple heart breaks at all; maybe we’re just lowering our standards to wait for something that we think we deserve.
But the truth is, we deserve so much more than that. Since when did it become OK to give someone an ounce of our time when they’re clearly camouflaging themselves from their true intentions? There’s been many times I thought I actually cared for someone that lead me to the realization that I was just a piece in a twisted game. It’s hard to believe that we can love the people that hurt us the most but it’s become the most natural thing. But, it doesn’t have to be.
Learn to love yourself. Love who you are and see the way you make a difference in the lives of people that actually do love you. Loving yourself is key before you can love anyone else. If you don’t love yourself first, how is it even possible to love a whole different person? Making yourself happy is more important than making that guy happy when he hits you up at 10 p.m. and begs you to come over. Making yourself happy is more important than making decisions that seem like a good idea at the moment, but leave you feeling broken the next day. Making yourself happy is more important.
Don’t be the right girl waiting around for the wrong guy. There are so many guys that would go crazy at the thought of getting to share any of your time so don’t let the wrong guys WASTE your time. When the guy you think you’re crazy about isn’t giving you the same amount of attention that you’re trying to give him, he’s obviously not the one. The right guy comes when you’re caught off-guard, when the idea of being in a relationship isn’t even on your mind, and when you’re totally and completely happy with the way your life is already, without a man.
You don’t need a man to make you happy when life has so much to offer aside from the idea of love. When we degrade ourselves to try to be the perfect woman that our supposedly "perfect" man wants, that’s when we lose sight of what we actually deserve. So, instead of chasing someone that’s (probably) chasing five other girls at the same, don’t chase at all. Love can wait if it means waiting for a life with 100 percent happiness, rather than constantly asking yourself if you’re even happy at all.
