Here are some pros and cons about long distance relationships, from my own experience being far away from my boyfriend.
Pro: You are less likely to confuse lust with love
For me I met my boyfriend over the internet, but before we met in person we learned about each other through texting and face timing. This helped us realize it was love not lust making us pursue this relationship. Which is a good sign your long distance relationship can last a long time.
Con: Once you see them in person for the first time is never the same
For me this is difficult, I am a very cuddly person and not being able to hug my boyfriend or simply be next to him hurts me inside. However, you have to remember you will see them again when the time comes. It also helps having an article of my boyfriends clothing. His hoodie comforts me knowing that he cares and is there with me even if it is not physically.
Pro: You value the relationship more when you see them in person
When you finally get to see your significant other after a long time it reminds you how much you care for that person. For me when i visited him every moment we spend together I cherish and look back on because it makes me to happy to be with him. Especially the little things such as, going on a long drive in his car while we listen to music or simply just being in his presence while watching a movie.
Con: The thought in the back of your head they will find someone better
This is a thought I have quite often because I am an always thinking of the "what ifs". But I have to remember that if he really didn't care about me he wouldn't take time out of his day to face time me for hours till I fall asleep or text me all day even when he is busy to tell me a dumb joke or update me on things going on. It shows he really cares and in active in the relationship.
Pro: Gives you time to focus on yourself as well as give them time too
Being in a relationship is a partnership you are in this together, but sometimes its okay to take time for yourself and know they are doing their own thing as well. For me I am in college and my boyfriend works all day, we do text through out the day, but we also know that work and school comes first and we give each other that space which is important because it shows healthy communication.
Con: Saying goodbye/see you later is always the hardest
You never want to leave when you finally get to see your significant other, but because you both live far away from each other you have to leave at some point and continue your life back home. For me and my boyfriend we never say goodbye it's always see you later because we know we will see each other again. That doesn't me you have to hid your feels however, I bawled my eyes out when I had to leave my boyfriend recently. It hurt my heart so much having to leave, but we both know that we are only one call away when we need each other.
Although I know I could add more cons than pros, it is important to note that you and your partner are both dedicated to the relationship nothing is impossible, your relationship can thrive and be something so amazing. Just have hope.
