I honestly and truly believe that the realest, most lasting relationships are the ones that are worked on. Not the ones that each person seems to be in a perpetual routine-like affection. It's even more difficult for me to comprehend those individuals who seem to offer their love as "unconditional." That no matter what someone can do, and no matter how bad they can hurt those around them, that they will be loved just as much as before an act of betrayal. That, to me, just seems like lies.
Having to work on relationships that are based on an equal standard of acceptance seems to be the best way to go. Most of the time though, it seems that people would rather have almost an illusion to fit their own narrative. This is fair, but it's when things aren't discussed and possibilities of suggestive wants and/or needs aren't talked about is the point in which something happens to shake this illusion you have created; it can be catastrophic to the relationship.
When I say I don't think true love or soulmates exist, I don't say it to be a pessimist. I think that the love that you build with someone, the kind of love that is realistic, and is discussed makes it so that you and your partner(s) opinions and ideals aren't based on a social construct. Those are ones that you can establish together, which lead to a healthier love.
