So, we all either have a friend or know a girl that's just boy crazy. You know that girl who is always in a relationship and constantly has issues within that relationship. She can be a great girl but it seems as though her life revolves around nothing but the people she dates. (There are guys like this too of course but for the writer's personal knowledge sake just insert "he" "him" "girlfriend" or whatever where needed).

Here's some sound advice?

You are you and continue to do you!

First of all, a relationship is not 50/50 contrary to what most people tell you. It is 100/100. If you give 100 percent and your partner gives 100 percent then when one person is lacking (and every once in a while someone will lack) you don't feel like something is completely missing. It is vital to keep in mind that you were and always will be one whole person before and after your significant other. Don't minimize who you are in an unsatisfying attempt to make room for someone else. This means continue to do you! If before you met your boyfriend you would have a lady's night every Thursday continue to do that. You can even propose a BYOB (Bring your own boyfriend) night to include your guy. Though your friends may not necessarily like this idea, try to enter into some sort of compromise by attending every other night. Don't put ALL your time and energy into someone other than yourself. Give him time to miss you. Most importantly, don't forget who you are as an individual by forgetting your friends, family, hobbies or anything you enjoy. Trust me, this type of thinking goes a long way in a relationship. Think about it this way: your boyfriend chose to date you because you were uniquely yourself. If he wanted you to stop doing you he would have just dated himself or stayed single for that matter.

Now, I'm not saying you can't give some of your time and attention to the one you care about but it's important that you bring some self-worth to the table. Which brings me to my next point:

It's Ok to be single.

Why exactly do you feel the need to always have someone in your life as a boyfriend? This is something you may really want to ask yourself. You are a great person with a great personality, therefore, there is no need to always have someone else validate that. This is where being secure with yourself comes in. It is inevitable to not be insecure about something but to enjoy yourself by yourself is very important. It's so important that if you don't have this ability, all your relationships will fail. Why? Because there will always come a time when your partner can't be around. You also need this security to help your mate when they are down. If you have no true love for yourself, how in the world do you expect to give it to someone else? Being afraid to be lonely is common but that doesn't make it healthy.

Know your worth.

Let's say you walk into a nice boutique and you see a bag/shoes that you really like (insert whatever gets your goat when shopping). You are so in love with that you must have this bag/shoes. So you ask the sales associate how much they cost in order to make that purchase. To your surprise she/he says "I don't know, whatever you want to pay." Now, you are shocked because this is a well known high-class boutique where everything is normally high priced (I wouldn't be shopping there because I'm cheap). You may even question what's wrong with the items but the sales associate will assure you they are brand new and perfectly fine. However, you are also excited and just hit the jackpot because you are going to pay $1 for the bag/shoes. Due to the fact that there was no price given, you will pay what you want never considering the quality of the material, the human labor put into manufacturing it or the demand for the product that could mark it up. Now, you've walked out of there only paying $1 for a $500-$1000 bag/shoes. Anyone and everyone would do this though so don't be ashamed it's only smart. But this is how we work as people with other people. So, we must teach people how to treat us. Always know your worth! Mark your own price tag so no one else can treat you cheap; you were made top of the line.

These are things we can all work on as individuals. We all can be insecure. We all can be clingy. This friend we have discussed may even be YOU. And this is ok. Take some time for you and to get yourself together before you enter into your next relationship but never give up on love. Love openly, love honestly, love fearlessly but just love.