How To Handle Having Divorced Parents

The Best Advice I Can Give Anyone Struggling With Divorced Parents

In the end, your parents love you no matter what.


Everyone who has divorced parents knows the struggle. Having to pack all your things up every week or twice a week just to unpack and then pack again a couple days later. Always being put in the middle of your parent's feuds. Never feeling like you get enough time with one of your parents during visits.

Here is some good advice that I've learned from having divorced parents:

Try to get two of everything.

The most frustrating thing for me was leaving my shampoo or foundation at my dad's house when I was going to my mom's house or vice versa. This doesn't necessarily apply if your parents live close to each other but, mine lived an hour away from each other. Try to get two items in as much as possible because it will make life a lot easier.

Don't play your parents against each other.

Let me tell you right now, this never works out in your favor. If one parent says 'no' and the other says 'yes' don't do anything until both parents agree. If you end up doing what the one parent said 'no' to, it will no doubt end in a fight. This is especially a bad idea when your parents ended on bad terms. Don't rock the boat more than it already is.

If you're an only child, blame it on the dog.

There is no sibling to blame things on when you mess up. Own up to your mistakes or just blame it on the dog. No, I'm just joking, try to always own up to your mistakes and faults. It will allow you to become a stronger individual.

Spend time with your parents, they miss you when you're gone.

Going back and forth from each parents house can get draining emotionally and physically. Try to spend as much time as you can with your parent when you're home because they miss you when you're gone, and I'm sure you miss them too.

Don't let your parents put you in the middle.

Sometimes it's easy for your parents to vent about the other parent to you. Don't let them. It creates tension and drama that is unnecessary.

The most independent and empowering times I've had living with divorced parents was when I turned sixteen and when I turned eighteen. When I turned sixteen, my papa and nana gave me a really nice car and I'm so thankful for that. It was the key to my independence, away from my parents. It was my escape during the day to just have some time alone.

Then, when I turned eighteen I was off to college. I have a love-hate relationship with college. But I wouldn't choose any other path for myself. It was the best decision for myself to grow as an individual. The hard thing about college and having divorced parents is balancing your time with each of them. It takes some planning and time management. But ultimately, make sure to do what is best for you.

In the end, your parents love you no matter what.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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